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How to Look Through the Lens of the Cycle of Abuse- Knowing Your Truth with Quinn Padilla
Season 1, Ep. 27
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On this episode I'm joined by my guest Quinn Padilla where we talk about how to gain clarity by focusing on what the *cycle* of abuse really looks like and new perspectives to help you identify patterns and stay strong. We also discuss Quinn's personal story as a DV survivor.
Quinn's Instagram: @itsquinnpadilla
Quinn's Website: https://www.rellawellness.com/
Article I cited: https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/
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