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Ep. 33: DV Survivor & Mass Shooting Survivor- Elle Gargano

Season 1, Ep. 33

On this episode, I am joined by Elle Gargano speaking about enduring a 9 year abusive relationship and all of the aspects that kept her feeling stuck including surviving a mass shooting during the time when she was still with her abuser. We speak heavily about emotional and mental abuse and how the confusion kept her feeling uncertain of her experience for many years.


Elle's Socials and Website:


Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellegargano/

TikTok: @ellegargano

Website: https://www.ellegargano.com/

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