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The Brink of Being by Julia Bueno
In this episode Julia Bueno and Sarah Savitt discuss miscarriage, women's health and Julia's book The Brink of Being: Talking about Miscarriage.
A captivating mixture of memoir, stories from the consulting room, history and science, The Brink of Being is a much-needed, comprehensive look at the common yet still taboo experience of miscarriage.
'A much needed book on this difficult and often unspoken loss, that of early pregnancy ... both illuminating and consoling.' Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works
It estimated that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and yet it persists as taboo. In The Brink of Being, a groundbreaking and essential book, psychotherapist Julia Bueno encourages us to talk about, think more, and reflect upon this often misunderstood, and little discussed event.
Drawing on her personal experience of miscarriage, stories from her consulting room, and interviews with medical professionals and researchers, Bueno provides history, context and consolation for anyone who has been through pregnancy loss, or wants to know how to help someone who has.
Bueno also investigates miscarriage in terms of how we respond to women's bodies and reproductive health, our attitudes to birth and death, and how we can - and should - encourage more curiosity and candid conversations, in order to better support the many affected by this loss.
Books recommended in this podcast:
Miscarriage: What every Woman needs to know by Professor Lesley Regan
Coming to Term: Uncovering the Truth About Miscarriage by John Cohen
The Rules Do Not Apply by Ariel Levy
The World's Two Smallest Humans by Julia Copus
Giving Up the Ghost: A Memoir by Hilary Mantel
What Mothers Do and How Mothers Love by Naomi Stadland
For more from Julia visit her website: http://www.juliabueno.co.uk/ or follow her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JBueno_UKCP and Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julia_bueno_therapist/?hl=en
To find out more about the Miscarriage Association here: https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIjeKFr4D94wIVCbTtCh3TvA94EAAYASAAEgKwpfD_BwE
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