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Anxious Attachment in Real Life!

Season 1, Ep. 9

Disclaimer: Although we are therapists, this podcast is not therapy and does not replace working with your own therapist. Everything shared here is for general education and conversation only.


In this episode, we’re breaking down anxious attachment, not from a textbook, but from real-life experiences.

We are discussing:

  • Overthinking texts
  • Assuming someone is mad at you
  • The urge to ask, “Are we okay?”
  • And what healing actually looks like (it’s not becoming a chill, unbothered person) 


If this resonates with you, please consider listening to this episode! 


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