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Bug Bangin' & New Beginnings

Season 4, Ep. 296

The Turn Me On family is growing, and Jeremie and Bryde are excited to be introducing a new team member, Anna, who has come on board to bring her incredible support and help us delve deeper into the fascinating world of sexuality research. Anna's arrival marks a new chapter for the podcast, infusing the show with fresh energy and enthusiasm. After some Anna love bombs, the hosts dive into the sex lives of bugs. Digging into insect mating rituals, covering everything from seductive mating calls to the exchange of spermatophores (yum). Bryde and Jeremie explore the peculiar practices of feeding during mating, and even the ultimate sacrifice some insects make for reproduction.

Key Takeaways:

  • The addition of Anna to the podcast team has brought new energy and support to the show.
  • The hosts plan to focus more on the research side of sexuality in future episodes.
  • Bug sex is a fascinating topic, with insects using various strategies for mating and reproduction.
  • Valentine's Day controversies, such as naming exes in cat litter boxes, can be seen as toxic and unnecessary.



Introduction and Announcement


The Role of Anna in the Podcast


Exploring Bug Sex


Mating Calls and Musical Seduction


Spermatophore and Feeding During Mating


Fatal Attractions and Self-Sacrifice


The Pleasure Principle


Acknowledging the Listeners and Future Plans


Discussion on Valentine's Day Controversies


Conclusion and Call to Support the Podcast

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