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Carnal Knowledge: Self-expanding activities and Desire in Relationships

Season 5, Ep. 318

Welcome back to Carnal Knowledge - where curiosity meets carnal desires! This week, we dive into the fascinating world of self-expansion and its tantalizing effects on sexual desire and relationship satisfaction. Resident researcher Anna brings us a groundbreaking study examining how self-expanding activities can reignite the flames of passion in long-term relationships. Join us as we unpack the study's three conditions and their intriguing impact on intimacy, self-growth, and romantic satisfaction. Discover how embracing new experiences together can breathe new life into established relationships and spark deeper connections. Don't miss this deep dive into the psychology of desire and the secrets to keeping the heat alive. Until next week, embrace the new, ignite the old.


Link to study:

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-47337-001

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