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Transition: A Beautiful Book of Poetry by Our Friend, Alicia Arballo

Ep. 45

Imagine keeping who you really are hidden for 62 years, knowing deep inside that you are not the person that others see.  Can you feel the pain of what it would be like to be unable to live as your true self because you could lose everything?


On today’s episode, we welcome back our dear friend, Alicia Arballo, who was kind enough to be our guest on episodes 18 and 19 two years ago.  Having transitioned at 62 years old, Alicia has taught us and many others so much about what it was like to have the courage to finally let the world know that she’s a woman.


We’re thrilled to share with you that Alicia has published a moving, beautiful book of poetry called Transition. Her poignant poems about the heartbreaking realities of coming out as transgender and the euphoria of living authentically moved us deeply and we couldn’t wait to talk with Alicia about them.


We’re also incredibly grateful to Alicia for being willing to read us a few of her poems, which we know can be very emotional, and we invite you to share that emotional journey with us, as there is so much to learn from it.


Alicia is a natural storyteller who has been writing poetry since she was a little girl, yet it wasn't until her transition that she felt the urge to share the feelings, sensations, challenges, and joys of her journey with us all.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About Alicia's passion for telling stories (5:10)
  • "Christine." The importance of representation (12:50)
  • "Checkout Counter." Daily, trivial moments for some, unforgettable for others (17:50)
  • "Joyce." The anxiety and relief of showing up as we really are (29:20)
  • "Dead name." The pain of rejection (34:00)


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