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Meet Lilah Sturges, Award-Winning Transgender Author

Ep. 41

In this episode, we are thrilled to be joined by author Lilah Sturges. She is happily married to her wife and has two lovely grown daughters. Lilah wrote the first two graphic novels in the award-winning and critically acclaimed Lumberjanes world and several other titles for Vertigo (DC Comics) and Marvel.


Her latest work, The Science of Ghosts, which will be published on June 18th by Legendary Comics, tells the story of a transgender forensic parapsychologist who studies ghost behavior to solve crimes and showcases a creative new spin on stories with trans characters. We were lucky enough to be given an advanced reader copy and we so enjoyed discussing how much we loved the book and what parts of it fascinated us most.


Throughout our conversation, Lilah tells us about how she got into graphic novels, her evolution as a writer, and her unique approach to transgender identities in her latest work. She also shares her coming out story, the challenges she and her family went through, and the story behind #transpizza.


In addition, Lilah shares her thoughts on grief in the trans community, her process of creating the main character’s traits in The Science of Ghosts, transphobia in media, and much more.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Becoming a graphic novel writer (5:10)
  • Lilah talks about how much of her personal experiences are reflected in "The Science of Ghosts" (10:20)
  • Lilah shares her coming out story (14:00)
  • Transgender people and grief (18:50)
  • Lilah talks about #transpizza (25:00)
  • Lilah, Jackie, and Bridget discuss transphobia (31:20)


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