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#18: Life After Divorce & Finding Your Path with Derek Ketelsen
In this episode of the Torchbearer podcast, it's a pleasure to welcome men's divorce coach Derek Ketelsen to the studio. We explore themes of personal identity, spirituality, and the complexities of faith. Derek shares his journey from a structured military background to a more fluid understanding of spirituality and personal growth. The conversation delves into the importance of ceremony and ritual in modern society, the challenges men face post-divorce, and the transformative power of self-discovery. In particular the significance of unraveling conditioning and embracing one's true self. Derek also discusses the importance of taking responsibility for one's emotions, particularly in the context of divorce. He emphasizes the need for supportive communities, such as his Pathfinder initiative for men in the military. The discussion also covers the significance of pre-divorce work, effective communication in relationships, and the rites of passage for fatherhood. Derek shares his personal journey of self-discovery and the challenges he faced in building a coaching business, highlighting the role of authenticity and the importance of offering genuine support to clients.
Takeaways and highlights
- Faith can be a complex journey influenced by upbringing and personal experiences.
- Derek's military background shaped his leadership skills and discipline.
- Ceremony and ritual are essential for marking transitions in life.
- The Hero's Journey framework can guide personal transformation.
- Men often struggle with identity and emotions post-divorce.
- Creating supportive communities can help men navigate divorce.
- Pre-divorce work is essential for relationship health.
- Effective communication is key to successful relationships.
- Rites of passage are important for boys becoming men.
- Self-discovery is a continuous journey.
- Building a coaching business requires understanding marketing and authenticity.
- Authenticity in coaching leads to better client relationships.
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https://www.derekketelsen.com/
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19. #19 The "Neo" Diet: Find Your Superhuman Health By Eating The Wrong Food, with Kevin Aventura
01:09:26||Season 3, Ep. 19In this episode of the Torchbearer podcast, I take a deep dive into the often overwhelming world of nutrition with author of The Neo Diet, and high-performance coach, Kevin Aventura.We explore the impact of social media on mental health, the importance of separating personal and online identities, and the concept of 'reality hacking'—the idea that individuals can create their own reality through choices and habits. Kevin shares his personal health journey, including challenges with mental health and gut health, and emphasises the significance of nutrition and avoiding processed foods as foundational steps for anyone looking to improve their health. Our conversation also touches on the overwhelming nature of the health industry and offers practical advice for beginners, including the importance of understanding our body's natural tendencies regarding food intake, the significance of fasting, and the need for physical activity, to combat the epidemic of metabolic diseases caused by constant eating and sedentary lifestyles. Kevin also shares insights from his book, 'The Neo Diet', which serves as a comprehensive guide to improving health through better nutrition and lifestyle choices.Key Moments & TakeawaysSocial media can negatively impact mental health.Separating personal and online identities is crucial.Reality hacking involves making conscious choices to change your life.Nutrition is foundational for mental and physical health.Avoiding processed foods can lead to significant health improvements.Small changes can lead to substantial long-term benefits.Gut health is closely linked to mental well-being.Focus on whole foods to improve overall health.Creating periods of fasting can benefit health. The body has evolved to create reserves for periods without food.Constant eating can lead to metabolic diseases.Fasting allows the body to repair and recycle energy.Humans are adaptable and resilient in various environments.Simplicity in routines leads to better compliance.Health hacks can distract from foundational principles.Find and Follow Kevin Aventura (and buy his book)Buy The Neo Diet Book hereKevin's Links (buy books, work with Kevin, etc.)https://www.instagram.com/kevin.aventura/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinaventura/17. #17: LinkedIn, Life & How To Turn Your Side Hustle Into A 6-Figure Business, with Simon Parsons
01:24:31||Season 3, Ep. 17If you're trapped in a job you don't like and dream of building a side-hustle then you'll love this episode with personal development and building a side hustle expert Simon Parsons.Simon shares his journey into personal development, highlighting the significance of investing in oneself as the ultimate asset. We delve into the role of intuition in decision-making, advocating for a balance between mindset, heart, and gut feelings. Simon also discusses the concept of frequency and its impact on personal reality and relationships, emphasising the importance of maintaining a high frequency through intentional thoughts and actions, and how this can lead to positive outcomes in life. The discussion also covers actionable steps for individuals to identify and shift their emotional states, as well as mindset shifts necessary for career transformation. Simon shares practical advice for those feeling stuck in their jobs and highlights the significance of giving and abundance in achieving personal growth, the significance of morning routines, and the importance of time management when you're trying to build a side-hustle and quit the 9-5.Topics covered and Key TakeawaysEvery day is a gift; embrace it with gratitude.Morning routines can set the tone for the day.It's important to find what lights you up personally.Time management is about mindset, not just scheduling.You can create your own reality by changing your thoughts.Self-worth is inherent; you don't need to earn it.Investing in yourself is crucial for personal growth.Your internal state affects your external reality.Hustle culture is not sustainable for long-term success.Creating space in your life can lead to greater clarity.Awareness is the first step of change for transformation.The journey of personal development often starts with a question.Combining mindset, heart, and gut leads to better choices. We emit frequencies that resonate or repel with others.Maintaining a high vibe state is crucial for manifesting desires.Our emotional states directly influence our external reality.Understanding frequency can help in personal and professional relationships.Negative frequencies attract negative situations and experiences.Giving stimulates abundance and opens up opportunities.Mindset shifts are essential for transitioning from employee to entrepreneur.Find and follow Simon onlinehttps://www.simonwparsons.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonwparsons1/https://www.instagram.com/simonwparsons/https://www.facebook.com/simonwparsons/16. #16: Reality Hacking with Jesse Elder
01:13:41||Season 3, Ep. 16What do you get when you invite someone who's come back from the future to transform the present onto your show?The answer is a deep conversation that might just expand your mind (if you're open to that kind of thing).Buckle up for the ride folks as I welcome the original "Time Piercer", action philosopher, and the one and only Jesse Elder to the Torchbearer™ Podcast!We cover a lot in a short space of time, and start by epxloring the concepts of freedom, "reality hacking", and the importance of taking action in personal development. Jesse shares his insights on how to cultivate emotional mastery, the significance of commitment, and the dangers of passively consuming information without implementing change. The discussion emphasises the need for individuals to confront their fears, embrace their potential, and take tangible steps towards their aspirations. We also explore themes of acceptance, personal choice in diet, the importance of exploration and experience, the unique cultural phenomenon of Burning Man, the pursuit of food sovereignty through Freedom Farms, and the current state of the world in relation to fear and control. Topped off with a little foray into human potential and the future of humanity in the context of trans-humanism and AI, emphasising the importance of self-reliance and personal agency.Key moments00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage02:47 The Concept of Freedom06:11 Defining Reality Hacking15:52 The Importance of Action30:01 Overcoming Fear of Disapproval42:13 Acceptance and Creation: The Path to Peace43:01 Diet and Nutrition: Personal Choices and Experiments48:00 Wanderlust and Exploration: The Importance of Experience51:22 Burning Man: A Unique Cultural Experience56:24 Freedom Farms: Pursuing Food Sovereignty01:00:35 The State of the World: Fear, Control, and Change01:11:23 Human Potential: Beyond Transhumanism and AIKey topics & takeawaysFreedom is not just a concept; it requires action.Reality is subjective and shaped by our experiences.Attention shapes our reality; where we focus, we grow.To change your life, you must first change your actions.Fear of disapproval can be overcome through experience.Commitment is essential for transformation.Information without action is merely a painkiller.Emotional mastery is key to personal freedom.You must stop lying to yourself about your desires.Every day is a fresh chance to make a choice. Acceptance of life leads to peace.Creating rather than consuming is essential for change.Listening to your body is key to nutrition.Exploration enriches personal experience.Burning Man offers a judgment-free environment.Food sovereignty is crucial for personal health.Fear is used to control the population.History shows a trend of improvement in human conditions.Human potential is still largely untapped.Self-reliance is vital in today's world.Find and follow Jesse in the Matrixhttps://jesseelder.com/https://www.instagram.com/timepiercer/https://www.facebook.com/timepiercer15. #15: Authentically Embracing The Adventure of Life with Laurie Lathom-Sharp
02:15:20||Season 3, Ep. 15From selling over a million pounds worth of sauerkraut to embarking on a multi-year quest of self-healing and inner transformation, I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation with digital nomad, transformational coach and found of Laurie's Tummy Loving Foods, Laurie Lathom-Sharp.Although all of us feel a yearning to break out of our comfort zones and pursue our true calling at some point in our lives, few of us have the courage to actually pursue that quest in real life.Laurie is an exception and his adventures have taken him all over the world, and lead him to study deeply with many different coaches and mentors, both of the human and plant variety.Laurie has a huge amount of knowledge, insight and experience to share with anyone looking to transform their life, heal from trauma and chronic health conditions and fill their life with more adventure (which is pretty much describes most people on the planet).I really hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did, and please share it with anyone you feel needs to hear it, or would benefit from it.Remember, sharing is caring, so help spread the word and don't keep it all to yourself!And please find and follow Laurie using the following links and platforms:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-lathom-sharp-ab2168203/YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHOiTKXDVk4Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/transformwithlaurie/Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/laurie.lathomsharp14. #14: Exploring Long-COVID and Other Complex Chronic Conditions With Dr Olivia Lesslar
01:01:23||Season 3, Ep. 14I finally managed to find a gap in Dr Olivia Lesslar's hectic travel schedule and pin her down for long enough to record this excellent episode of the Torchbearer™ podcast!Please note, this episode was recorded in October 2022, but only recently published. Since recording, Dr Olivia would like to make clear that the research regarding long-COVID has significantly advanced, along with her approach to treating patients with this condition (something that is becoming increasingly better understood).We met at the Health Optimisation Summit in London, in May 2022 and, after spending the weekend hanging out with Dr Olivia, I knew I had to get her on the podcast. Deeply knowledgeable, multi-talented and passionate about helping patients with complex, chronic conditions, Dr Olivia bridges the gap between traditional and Functional Medicine, and gives me a lot of hope for the future.Dr Olivia Ly Lesslar is Australian-educated and has a Bachelor of International Relations with a triple major including French and Diplomacy, and a Bachelor of Medicine, Bachelor of Surgery. She finished her residency in 2016 and has completed postgraduate studies in skin cancer medicine and clinical nutrition management. She is currently undertaking a Diploma in Clinical Hypnosis and Strategic Psychotherapy. Dr Olivia has interest and expertise in preventative medicine, psychoneuroimmunology, biohacking, and complex conditions like neurodegeneration, cancer, allergies, and the emerging pentad of MCAS - Dysautonomia - Hypermobility - GI dysmotility - Autoimmunity. Her unique skill set is in problem-solving multisystem, chronic conditions.In this episode, we take a deep dive into:My own experiences battling long-COVID (as a kind of live case history that people can learn from)Dr Olivia's approach to helping patients all over the world overcome complex, chronic conditions, rebuild their health and reclaim their lives, using Functional Medicine.How anyone can apply the Foundational Health principles to improve their healthThe good and the bad of biohacking (is it just marketing, or is there value in it)Much morePlease find and follow Dr Olivia on the following platforms:https://www.instagram.com/drolivialesslar/ (@drolivialesslar)https://www.drolivialesslar.comEnjoy this episode and if you have any questions, are struggling with long-COVID or another long-term, chronic health condition, and have hit a dead end with the traditional medical approach, please get in touch as I would be more than happy to share resources and refer you to someone who can help (like Dr Olivia).#13: How To Create Win-Win Situations: Mastering The Game Of Business With Roger "Dodge" Woodall
01:48:21|Nowadays everyone seems to be an "entrepreneur" and the internet and social media channels are full of so called experts and business coaches dishing out mediocre advice and over-priced coaching.Which is why this conversation with Dodge Woodall was so refreshing (and has to be one of my personal favourite episodes so far). Dodge is a natural-born entrepreneur with a flair for spotting opportunities, finding new categories (niches) and creating win-win situations. A real people person with a confident, easy-going nature, Dodge has a knack for peppering his business stories with streetwise life advice and down-to-earth philosophy that makes so much sense. From growing up over a busy London pub and flogging tickets, ice creams, hotdogs and unwanted toys for cash aged 10, to running over 1500 student nightclub events in the 90's and 00's, Dodge is a business pioneer who loves to create unbeatable experiences for his customers.In this highly enjoyable conversation we cover:How Dodge's unconventional upbringing taught him the game of businessHow to recognise your strengths and double down on themHow Dodge pioneered the concept of student night events nationwideUpping his game to create the world's first music and sport festival and nearly losing his house in the processDodge's advice if you want to leave your 9-5 and start your own businessAnd so much moreListen now and then please share this episode and help me grow the podcast.Thank you!Olly12. #12: Cold Water Swimming, Overcoming Anxiety and Growing Your Business On Clubhouse with Lynsey Suzanne
01:25:33||Season 2, Ep. 12This week it's a pleasure to welcome Lynsey Suzanne to the Torchbearer™ studio. I'm embarrassed and also very pleased to say that Lynsey is the first woman to appear on the show (not intentional and hopefully the first of many).Lynsey quit her corporate job and changed her life in order to pursue her dream career in fitness. A successful and passionate entrepreneur who lives life on her own terms, Lynsey now runs four online businesses, ranging from online fitness and streaming workouts to coaching other entrepreneurs how to leverage audio platform Clubhouse to grow their audience and business.In this highly enjoyable conversation we cover:Why Lynsey gets up at 5 am to swim in the sea, everyday, year round (even at -3 degrees C)!Using cold water immersion and breath work to overcome anxietyLeaving your corporate job to start your own businessHow to successfully start and guild online businessesHow to leverage Clubhouse to tell your story, grow your audience and build a successful businessI hope you enjoy this episode and please check out Lynsey's website below and follow her online as she shares a lot of excellent, valuable content.https://www.lynseysuzanne.comhttps://clubhouselikeapro.clubFollow Lynsey on Instagram@lynseysuzanne_@fitnessinfifteenFollow Lynsey on Clubhouse and drop into one of her rooms@lynseysuzanne12. #12 Show Trailer: Cold Water Swimming & Clubhouse with Lynsey Suzanne
00:41||Season 2, Ep. 12Listen to this show trailer to find out what's coming up in episode #12 of the Torchbearer™ Podcast.This week's guest is online personal trainer, crazy cold water swimming enthusiast, Clubhouse superstar and all round action woman, Lynsey Suzanne.