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You are a young widow in 17th century Britain trying to move on when a handsome stranger saves you from a deranged man about to attack you. You run off with the stranger. He is brooding, dark... dangerous. You want him and everything about him.

Tom goes in search of ghosts but breaks into the wrong house! The ghost he meets there wants to play... in a different way.

TRANSCRIPT:Hi everybody I wanted to talk to you about some directional shifts that are going to be happening. Last time I addressed the Patreon it was a public statement because it concerned listeners in the public sphere. This message is only for my patrons.Most of you are extremely supportive and offer nothing but kind encouragement and a positive attitude when greeting me or talking to or about me. I appreciate that, thank you for your candor, your honesty, your transparence, and the respect you show when you communicate with me directly -- that goes a long way in building community and trust.There is most of you who recognize that I am an independent artist free from the events and activities that occur in other artists spaces and communities and I value your confidence in my personal integrity. I am extremely thankful for a community that recognizes human error and the respect for those around him to recognize and address such errors.Although many of you are wary to directly interact with me or contact me, I know that despite being made to feel uncomfortable you have respected my privacy whether you believe me to be engaging or not engaging in activities romantic or otherwise. For the record I am very single and that has been by choice because being single is part of what I want to be up to at this point in my life.All these things including supporting me when I feel incredibly vulnerable because you are a supportive force as I react to forces counter to the generative energy that you all foster for the work you expect me to produce. As your artist and content creator I am foremost interested in that generative energy.And if you do not like me yet remain here, that sort of participation is non generative for creating work that got you here in the first place, so if that is the case, I am not interested in that, it is not something I am wanting to be up to.I have a responsibility to create content and make that available to you. Creating content is the crux of why we are all here. I am happiest when I can create things. But recent trials mostly by forces external to us, but some by individuals among us and spilling non-generative thoughts across other platforms—the defense, scrambling and obligation to those has become the dominant feeling culture for me. This is mentally and emotionally taxing, and I would like to share with you why.I bet many of you are creatives and participate in some sort of creative process. But there are also those of you who do not create as a sustained method of expression or communication.I spoke in my public address about being an artist and wanting to facilitate an open environment that emphasized safety for everyone involved. I spoke about my daily involvement in the activities on our discord server as well as the multiple interactive weekly events I facilitate and interact in.What many of you who are not artist identified might understand is the price I as an artist pay for the interaction, I afford you. It is meaningful and important, but also Relational work, transactional, takes from the clock—there is a cost of taking away from the responsibility I am up to—making work for you.Paying that cost and being unable to relax against the push of threats to my person, my business, our community, all that takes a toll. Sleeping and eating have been difficult, a growing apathy has been washing over me, the ability to create has crossed into a non-generative pattern.So, I must do something to fix this and bring us back to why we are here: the work.I cannot stay productive AND interactive to the current degree AND nonstop address PR for threats that are either speculative, attacks on my character, and ALWAYS plain wrong. The greying of my vision I experience feeds from panic, fear, paranoia, and unease over what thing will go wrong next?I need to take a vacation from the interaction. It is the best of the three factors we can control together. I need some distance from my community so I can feel safe in my own server and space again rather than worry my words just become misconstrued ammunition. I will not be ABSENT. I will still be there every day, and I will still chime in text on occasion. Tuesday night rambles will still be available.TV and Movie events may or may not be facilitated by me but will continue. Talk to Tom will change to be more open ended rather than another responsibility for me. The Workshop will be closed for the time being.You can still leave me a message in the new talk to tom, speak to me directly on Patreon DM, or leave me an anonymous message through the feedback form on tombanter.com.The largest responsibility I have is to shepherd the community that many have told me they call home, I will just be doing it a little more silently and detached, so I can focus on the work that brought us all here to begin with: the audios.

TRANSCRIPT:Hello. I received a concerned email from an anonymous person who was unsure and concerned about the level of safety that black women of color felt in my discord server. They based this concern citing the comments in one of ProfessorCal_’s Reddit posts where he was apologizing for events that occurred on his server – events that I am not entirely read in on as I neither belonged to Cal's server nor was I ever a participant in any form in his projects or his endeavors.This concerned person mentioned a particular moderator for Cal and it seems that the participation of this moderator, who also moderated for me, now puts me in league with persons such as Cal whose transgressions I am not completely 100% read in on, and kente, whose conduct could have been avoided entirely if he had boundaries set from the beginning even remotely approaching my own. The participation of this specific moderator caused implications and dangers for me, my community, and especially the black women of color in my server.Anybody is free to question my advocacy for diversity and inclusivity, I support Black Lives Matters, I’m outspoken on human rights issues, I talk about LGBTQIA+, I’ve been insane about tweeting about the repercussions on the attack on Congress—which had extreme racist, white supremacist undertones instigated by President Trump. I cannot argue my way into people's hearts. I can only believe what I believe and speak my truth. All I can say is that I had never received any complaints about the mod in question, so I don’t know if the conduct that we are examining here equals the conduct that was questionable or outright offensive in Cal’s server; however I did relieve them of their duties prior to receiving the e-mail, precisely to protect feelings of safety within my server, after receiving knowledge about that particular mod.I am an artist, I am open and honest about what I believe in the causes I believe in, the people who participate in my server, both BIPOC and not are there because they want to participate in my artistic process and they believe in it (and that’s what the server was built for, for learning about process and to be productive) , I facilitate an open environment that emphasizes safety for everyone involved, and I am actively involved in my server’s day to day activity and with the people in it, I conduct multiple activities with patrons on a weekly basis, I am visible and I am there, so much that I get told to take days off but I don’t. Being a part of my community is just how I operate. I have a limited mod team who can receive concerns about me as intermediaries, and I provided several methods to directly and indirectly contact me.I care about my patrons, I care about all of my listeners, but Patrons especially--they are free to stay or go as they please, their feelings safety or lack thereof in my server is theirs to decide and my responsibility to govern as they voice their concerns to me. Their freedom to come and go as they need is a key component in their exercise of safety.And as always, please DM Rose or Markus in Discord if you ever need anything on the server or have a concern about me. I am accountable to you, my Patrons, and their job as mods include sustaining that accountability.I hope you take all of this with an open mind and heart and reach out if you need anything. Whether Patrons stay for me, or dislike me and just for their friends in the server, or stay for whatever other reason, they’re welcome here as long as they’re not a destructive force--Banterville is a community of mental and emotional support and I am proud of my dedicated family of server participants for piecing together such a vibrant place of belonging and understanding. This community was created by my Patrons and continues to thrive because of them.I hope this brings matters into focus.I will leave links to the E-Mail message in question so you can read it and understand best what I am addressing, as well as a link to my anonymous feedback form where you can always send me a message any time without needing to leave a name or contact info.I hope this message receives you well and thank you very much for listening. --The concerned E-Mail: https://drive.google.com/file/d/14C-UsLu_mFaHF5XB6yDyzIGiFyr_SbJ_/view?usp=sharingAnonymous Feedback Form: https://www.tombanter.com/feedback

You are Miss Grace, a successful and respected physicist throwing a goodbye party for yourself as you have just been promoted. What you don't know is one of your associates has brought your ex, Mr Banter, with them. Will you be able to put away your differences? 

The story of a woman and her best friend's husband shipwrecked on an uninhabited island. Explore the relationship between two people who think they have nothing in common while yearning for their spouses. Will the tension of surviving together lead to a bond? Or something more?

Further thoughts on my: - sense of responsibility as the patriarch of this community, - my duty to apologize to anyone who is hurt or scared by my mistakes, - speaking to individuals on an individual basis and not discussing group thoughts with a single individual, - ways you can reach out to me without a conversation in the event you are fearful of reaching out to me, - my patience in waiting for you to get to that point, - and your duty or non duty as the case may be for my feelings concerning individuals unrelated to the matter and sheltering responsibility for a third party.

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