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#125 Toxic Masculinity

Ep. 125

In this episode of the Tom the Trainer Fitness Podcast, I dive into a thought-provoking discussion on the negativity that’s been circulating on social media—specifically, the rise of toxic energy toward men and how it impacts relationships and mindsets.


While "toxic masculinity" might be a buzzword, I challenge you to look beyond the noise and focus on reciprocity, positivity, and intentional energy.


You'll learn:


  • How social media algorithms reinforce negativity—and how to clean up your feed.
  • Why entitlement mindsets damage relationships, and what to do instead.
  • The power of value exchange in every interaction—whether it’s friendships, partnerships, or coaching relationships.
  • Practical steps to shift your social media and personal energy toward a more positive, productive direction.


If you're ready to take control of the energy you allow into your life, this episode is a must-listen, and if you enjoyed the episode, please leave a 5-star review and share it on social media!


Want to transform your body in the next 12 weeks? Join Tom The Trainer’s Tribe, and message me the word “coaching” on Instagram at Tomthetrainerfitness or Facebook at Tom Trainer Mouland!


Have the best day ever!

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