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You Can Have it All... But You Can't Do It All: How To Be Ambitious Without Burning Out

Ep. 282

Hey babe! This one is for every woman who's ever thought, “If I just hustle harder, I’ll finally feel successful.” 🙋‍♀️


Today I'm joined by my dear friend Katy McFee—former biotech and tech executive turned leadership coach—who climbed all the way to VP and EVP... only to realize that grinding 10x harder than everyone else wasn’t the answer. In fact? It nearly burned her out.


We're talking about what it *actually* takes to rise in your career (or in your life!) without sacrificing your health, your family, or yourself. Whether you're in corporate, running a business, or managing a household, you're going to see yourself in this conversation.


Because here's the truth:*you can have it all....but you cannot do it all.


We dive into:

- Why “working harder” becomes a liability at higher levels of leadership  

- How to identify your zone of genius (and stop obsessing over your weaknesses)  

- The burnout recipe most women don’t even realize they’re following  

- How to create visibility at work *and* at home without feeling awkward  

- Why you're not a tree—and you're allowed to move  

- The power of non-negotiables and boundaries (without apology)  

- How motherhood actually boosts your efficiency and prioritization  

- Why perfectionism is secretly draining you  

- What “having it all” really means  


Katy shares her own story of burning out, leaving corporate, doing deep inner work in her 40s, and building a life she genuinely loves. We also talk about comparison traps, negotiating maternity leave unapologetically, setting calendar boundaries, and how to align your life with what you actually want (and not just what looks good on paper).


If you've ever looked around at your “perfect” life and felt miserable… this episode will feel like a permission slip.


YOU get to decide what energizes you—and build from there.


Go connect with Katy McFee:

- Podcast: "More Women Promoted" — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-women-promoted/id1799258767  

- LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/katy-mcfee-3880b4a  

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katy.mcfee/  


And babe, if you loved this episode, go leave a rating and review. It helps us free more moms and spread this work even further. 💖


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