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People We Have Met And Don't Want To

Season 1, Ep. 168

To prepare for the day ahead, the Stoic Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius would often remind himself of the type of people he was likely to come into contact with.


“At the start of the day,” he wrote in his Meditations. “Tell yourself: I shall meet people who are officious, ungrateful, abusive, treacherous, malicious, and selfish.”


In this episode, we look at why we might want to develop a similar practice.


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