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Choose Calm Over Control
š UNBOXED on Purpose Episode 123: Choose Calm Over Control
Thursday, May 21, 2026
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š Choose Calm Over Control | Barbara A. F. Brehon | UNBOXED on Purpose Ep. 123 @favoredbythefatherministries
In this solo episode of UNBOXED on Purpose, Rev. Dr. Barbara A. F. Brehon shares a powerful reflection on becoming ā learning how to choose calm over control while staying aligned with your faith, identity, and assignment.
This episode is rooted in her original song āThe Second Seat (Choose Calm Over Control)ā and her 2026 word for personal spiritual growth, BECOMING.
Through this unboxed and transparent episode, you will explore how to:
⢠choose calm over control in every season
⢠lead and live from a place of peace and clarity
⢠embrace positioning without striving
⢠walk in quiet authority and spiritual maturity
This episode also speaks to the balance of being designed to give ā while remaining present where you are received.
If you are in a season of unboxing your purpose, your voice, and your posture, this episode will meet you there.
š§ Featuring šµ
The Second Seat (Choose Calm Over Control)
Stop Feeling Rushed
Here, In the Becoming
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Visit the āContact Usā page at Favored by the Father Ministries
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š Scriptural Anchors for This Episode (for those who desire to go deeper)
Acts 17:28
Proverbs 16:9
Proverbs 3:5ā6
1 Corinthians 3:6
James 4:6
1 Peter 5:6ā7
Colossians 3:15
Galatians 5:22ā23
Philippians 1:6
Proverbs 15:1
Proverbs 18:16
Ecclesiastes 3:1
Psalm 46:10
Psalm 138:8
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