The Things Left Unsaid Podcast

This episode revolves around one dilemma: discovering your best friend’s partner cheating and being offered money to stay silent.From that single moment, the conversation expands into questions about loyalty, accountability, and the cost of doing the “right” thing in complicated situations.We discuss conflict in relationships, why people are quicker to walk away instead of working through issues, and the difference between endurance and self-respect. Kola also reflects on personal life changes and how growth can shift dynamics across friendships and relationships.The episode closes with a broader conversation about generational narratives particularly the idea that newer generations are less resilient or less capable and whether redefining boundaries is weakness or evolution.A focused, layered conversation on responsibility, loyalty, and modern relationships.Very Things Left Unsaid.

The opens with a different kind of energy, our first guest of the season joins us, and the conversation flows exactly how it should.In this episode, we sit down with Faith. a student, writer, entrepreneur, and a girl who genuinely loves what she loves and enjoys what she enjoys, unapologetically. She brings fresh perspective, curiosity, and honesty into the room, and it shows in how the conversations unfold.We keep things light and conversational, talking about what we’ve been watching lately, movies, franchises, cinema-level storytelling, and the way social media shapes how stories are received. From pop culture opinions to character arcs and cultural references, everyone brings their own lens and nobody is trying to win the argument.Somewhere between the laughter and the back-and-forth, we touch on bigger ideas: how people interpret stories differently, how women are represented and perceived in narratives, and how enjoying what you enjoy doesn’t need justification.This episode isn’t about arriving at conclusions or delivering lessons. It’s about exchange. About letting conversations breathe. About perspectives meeting without pressure.Fun. Relaxed. Thoughtful without trying too hard. A soft start to the season and a reminder that sometimes, the best conversations happen when nothing is forced.

Nobody really prepares you for the quiet grief.The kind that doesn’t come from death, but from friendships that faded, dreams that stalled, relationships that ended without proper closure, and the version of yourself you were so sure you’d be by now.In this episode, we sit with the downside, emotionally, honestly, and without rushing ourselves to “heal.” We talk about how life can feel heavy when expectations don’t match reality, when pressure mounts, and when it seems like everyone else is moving forward while you’re stuck explaining your own pain to yourself.We read through dilemmas that mirror our own experiences:Loving deeply without being chosenBeing emotionally invested in people who were only passing timeLearning that being single isn’t the problem it is being attached to inconsistency is.Mourning things that are still alive, just not yours anymoreThere’s laughter, of course. Because that’s how we survive.But there’s also acceptance, the kind that doesn’t deny pain yet refuses to live in bitterness.We also unpack a harder question:How do you take responsibility for your life without dismissing your struggles?How do you ask for help without feeling entitled?How do you grow without pretending you didn’t start from behind?This episode isn’t about pretending everything is fine.It’s about believing that eventually, somehow, with time, honesty, and self-awareness. We will be.Not because life is easy.But because we’re resilient enough to keep going without losing ourselves.

This episode is for the people who feel deeply… but quietly.We read through a few dilemmas, the kind you don’t shout about, the kind you carry gently. From liking someone and knowing exactly where to stop, to still checking on someone who’s no longer yours “just to be sure they’re okay,” we talk about the habits that linger even after things end.We laugh (a lot), we tease ourselves, and then we slowly land on something heavier — closure. Not the dramatic kind. Not the loud conversations or long explanations. But the kind that comes with silence. The kind that shows up when you stop chasing, stop explaining, stop trying to fix what was never yours to fix.This episode isn’t about solutions or rules. It’s about acceptance, self-awareness, emotional limits, and learning how to feel without self-abandoning. Sometimes closure isn’t a conversation — it’s just you choosing peace, quietly.Soft episode. Funny moments. Real feelings. Very Things Left Unsaid.

So… when is asking for opinions healthy and when is it actually doing the most?In this episode, we talk about external validation: asking friends, family, partners (and sometimes the group chat) to confirm decisions we already lowkey know the answer to. We get into why seeking validation doesn’t automatically mean you lack confidence, why nobody truly lives life alone, and why sometimes you should ask.But we also talk about when it gets shaky when opinions start replacing self-trust, when oversharing becomes a habit, and when other people’s voices get louder than your own. From family pressure to social expectations to “let me just ask one more person,” we unpack how validation can help… or quietly hold you back.This episode isn’t about cutting people off or acting like you don’t care. It’s about balance knowing when advice is useful and when it’s noise, how to build self-worth, set boundaries, and still exist in community without losing yourself.Basically: ask for advice, but don’t outsource your life.

In this episode of The Things Left Unsaid Podcast, we sit with a conversation many of us live every day but rarely name, Black Tax. The quiet expectation. The unspoken responsibility. The “you have it now, so you must help” narrative that follows success, survival, and even small wins.We unpack what Black Tax actually means within the Nigerian context, exploring how culture, family dynamics, and socioeconomic realities shape it. We talk about how millennials often carry it as a duty, while Gen Z increasingly questions it, and why that generational tension keeps showing up at home, in relationships, and within ourselves.This episode dives into the emotional, financial, and social impact of being taxed by love, the guilt, the pressure, the burnout, and the fear of saying no, especially when the expectation comes from parents or family. We also challenge the idea that setting boundaries automatically means being selfish or ungrateful.More importantly, we talk about how to navigate Black Tax without losing yourself: honest conversations, redefining support, setting sustainable limits, and finding balance between empathy and self-preservation. Not from a place of rebellion, but from a place of awareness.This isn’t an attack on family.It’s a conversation about choice, capacity, and survival.Because some bills aren’t financial, they’re emotional. And they’ve been left unsaid for far too long.