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The One Where She is The Black Fairy Godmother

Season 1, Ep. 8

Fairy Dust Isn't Always Shiny...

The Black Fairy Godmother Foundation, founded by Simone Gordon, is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization created to help Black and Brown marginalized families. Our foundation uses the power of networking, social media, and influence to connect families in need with people that can help.

We have a variety of programs to meet the needs of those who need assistance. Our goal is to not only provide relief but help them to get to a place of stability and equip them with the proper tools and support so they may sustain themselves going forward.

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    Published March 22, 2022 from*Trigger Warning - Topics of depression, trauma, abuse and suicidal ideation) Hello, my name is Andrew Pledger, and this is my story of religious trauma. My story is long and complex which is why I’ve been working on a book. This entry will leave out many details and cover the general overview of my experiences, and help people understand how I got here.   "Religious trauma is similar in symptoms to Complex-PTSD. Symptoms of RT Negative beliefs about others Low self-esteem Struggle with emotional regulation Depression, anxiety, grief, and anger NightmaresDisassociation, flashbacks Lack of pleasureFeeling isolated Feeling empty, lost, or directionless Reduced critical thinking Feeling out of place or like you don’t belong  According to Restoration Counseling, Religious Trauma Syndrome is often caused for several reasons by different people. Many people experience RTS as a result of an authoritarian religion or faith community. Individuals suffering from RTS may be struggling with black-and-white thinking, irrational beliefs, difficulty trusting themselves, low self-esteem, or feeling indebted to a group of people. Skewed views of sex, discipline, emotional regulation, relationships, and self-expression are usually present in toxic religious environments" (Source: Restoration Counseling).- Andrew Pledger(Excerpt taken from AndrewFacebookWebsiteInstagram〰️〰️Shanny 👖〰️〰️
  • 5. Life gets Better after Devastating Loss

    I turned to writing after George, my partner of 32 years, died of cancer in April 2013, and I found myself living alone for the first time at age 50.I needed to know I still existed after a year of being his caregiver, watching him disintegrate, feeling deep in my bones that somehow I was failing him. He was in denial so he thought he was going to recover even as his body abandoned him.I couldn’t fix his illness, not could I jolt him into reality, nor get him to agree to palliative care, nor to involve his parents who were going to lose their only child. I thought I was crawling out of my skin. Through grief therapy, I found out I had post-traumatic stress disorder.Over the next few years, I sort of got better, in dribs and drabs, but the loneliness enveloped me. For 32 years, George and I had eaten dinner together almost every night, then curled up in bed to wake up beside each other each morning. I still wonder, where does all that love go? Is it transmuted into protective energy or is it just gone?I was a practicing attorney for over ten years which lends my writing an acrid tone of bitterness and irony. In an effort to work on that, I also earned an MFA in creative nonfiction from Saint Mary’s College of California in May of 2020.My essays have been published in The New York Times’ “Modern Love” column, HuffPost, Woman’s Day, Good Housekeeping, Elle Decor, and Reader’s Digest, among other publications. My award-winning blog, dispenses empathy and advice on grief and dating after loss.I’ve been in the California Bay Area since I was six, and currently live in Benicia, CA. I can usually be found walking by the water, on a hiking trail, in a yoga class, or discussing the virtues of cheese with my second life partner, Randal.DebbieFind Debbie here Instagram Website FacebookTikTok〰️〰️Shanny 👖〰️〰️LinkTreeInstagram TikTokYouTube Facebook
  • 4. Hospice Nurse Julie

    I am editing this episode as I sit next to my Grandpa’s bedside. He was put on hospice a few days ago. I feel so incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to come be with him during his last days on earth. It is absolutely beautiful as I look at his wristband boasting "97 yrs" and think back on how much life he has experienced. It's been emotional but mostly comforting being here with him. He is ready to see Jesus and many loved ones who are waiting for him. When I interviewed Julie I had no idea that within a few months I would be experiencing so many things she talked about. Thank you Julie for preparing me with this podcast episode and your amazing videos without even knowing what you were doing.I love you Grandpa. You were the greatest example of love I have ever witnessed. You will be missed but I'm so happy you will be at peace soon.〰️〰️Shanny 👖〰️〰️
  • 3.29. Tyler Measom

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  • 2.28. HELP me HELP my child!

    I had the most wonderful time chatting with Lori, Katie and Mallory. These ladies have helped me so much and that was only from following their instagram account. I cannot wait for them to start their podcast! It is going to be packed with so much information to consume! Thank you ladies for making my day by spending some time with me! Taken from: The Childhood Collective WebsiteWe are Lori, Katie, & Mallory.Lori (left) and Mallory (right) are both child psychologists and Katie (center) is a speech language pathologist. Most importantly, we are moms, just like you.After working with families over a combined total of 40 years, we saw a need to provide ongoing support and education to parents raising children with ADHD. IT'S A LITTLE BIT OF SCIENCE AND A LOT OF HEARThey there!Most of the time, you have a sweet, happy child with ADHD. But when you tell them "no"… cue the hour-long meltdown! It is exhausting to feel like you are walking on egg shells ALL...THE...TIME.On top of that, you are giving your child one million reminders to do simple tasks... things like taking a shower, getting dressed, and doing homework. And the more you remind, the more frustrated they become!At school, your child is receiving poor grades and discipline referrals, and you are getting constant calls from the teacher about behavior problems. No one seems to know what to do or how to help.Are You Ready to Go From Surviving to Thriving?PARENTING YOUR CHILD WITH ADHDDOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS HARD.Let's get started!Find THE CHILDHOOD COLLECTIVE:Website Instagram BlogFind Shanny Pants
  • 1.27. Rachel Bernstein

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  • 11.24. Sarah Pashniak-Pashionate About Sleep

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