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What You Want Vs. What You Want to Want

Have you ever found yourself wanting to want something that you don’t truly desire? Deep down, you know it’s not really what’s best for you, but you’re attracted to the idea of it or what it represents. I discuss this concept of distinguishing between what you want and what you want to actually want in your health and fitness journey.


In this episode, I discuss: 

  • [00:00] Intro
  • [00:19] Finding balance in fitness and work
  • [02:56] Incorporating strength training into your routine
  • [04:20] Self-love and body acceptance
  • [05:45] What do you want
  • [08:10] Focus on more than just weight and appearance
  • [09:46] Nutrition for body results versus overall health
  • [10:17] Simplicity and consistency in nutrition habits
  • [10:46] Cultivate values to fall back on
  • [12:51] Process delicious foods have their place
  • [14:11] Unrealistic portrayal of fitness on social media
  • [15:27] Fact-check me!
  • [16:10] Leveraging total daily energy expenditure
  • [17:04] Walking for improved body outcomes
  • [18:48] Make eating high-protein food a value
  • [21:23] How much protein should you eat
  • [22:16] Get stronger for both aesthetic goals and longevity
  • [24:19] Why you’re not where you want to be with your body
  • [26:14] Wrap up


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