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Sophie James - Growing Up In An Undiagnosed Neurodivergent Family | EP16

Ep. 16

"Growing up in an undiagnosed family made me feel different from others and lead to a sense of being strange or weird!"


This episode of the Neurodivergent Experience discusses growing up in an undiagnosed family. Sophie James, Jordan's daughter, joins to share her experience about feeling different from other families, the challenges of navigating the school playground, the lack of support from the school, and the importance of bonding through daddy-daughter days. Sophie, shares her perspective on growing up with an undiagnosed autistic father and the challenges they faced as a family and reflect on the changes that occurred after Jordan's autism diagnosis and the newfound understanding and acceptance it brought them.


Takeaways


  • Struggles and successes in school can vary for neurodivergent individuals, and it's important to focus on the strengths and abilities rather than just the deficits.
  • Neurodivergence can impact family dynamics, and understanding and support from parents can make a significant difference in a child's experience.
  • Neurodivergent experiences can vary, with some individuals being more external and emotional, while others are more internal and repetitive.
  • It is important to lower unrealistic expectations and standards in friendships to foster healthier relationships at school.
  • Having a diagnosis can provide validation and support, but it is not always necessary for personal growth and understanding


Chapters


00:00 RTN Sponsor

01:18 Introducing Sophie James

08:50 Independence and Struggles in Primary School

16:23 Challenges in the School Playground

32:02 Impact of Neurodivergence on Family Dynamics

36:15 Growing Up with an Undiagnosed Autistic Father

48:25 The Shift in Understanding and Acceptance

55:30 The Impact of Not Having A Filter

01:00:11 Understanding Each Other's Differences

01:07:41 Self-Awareness and Acceptance


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