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458 | Dating Clutter
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The Minimalists speak with clinical psychologist Orion Taraban about minimizing dating clutter to form more meaningful intimate relationships.
Discussed in this episode:
Any advice for dating again after the end of a long relationship? (2:06)
How do I avoid carrying past baggage into future relationships? (15:33)
Why does Dr. Taraban encourage his clients not to date? (27:08)
Does hookup culture make it harder to meet people who want a genuine connection? (35:04)
Do dating apps make it harder to commit to a relationship? (38:41)
How do I decide whether it’s time to move on from a difficult relationship? (40:44)
Are great relationships effortless, or do they take work to maintain? (46:41)
How can you tell whether a date will be worthwhile or a waste of time? (52:42)
Listener tip: How to minimize while unpacking after a trip. (56:41)
How do I generate the courage to be my authentic self without oversharing on the first date? (59:18)
How does the fear of being alone hurt my chances of finding a meaningful relationship? (1:09:33)
How do I know whether I’m best suited for monogamy or an open relationship? (1:19:14)
How can couples avoid relationship insecurity while using social media? (1:34:14)
How do I know whether I’m compatible with a new partner? (1:44:08)
Who are captains and who are passengers in a relationship? (1:57:37)
What are the most common relationship red flags and green lights? (2:04:14)
How does one play the Game of Please/No? (2:08:30)
What does the so-called Red Pill community get right/wrong? (2:14:34)
How does one avoid being put in the Friend Zone? (2:20:54)
Do opposites really attract? (2:31:19)
LINKS
Book: Love People, Use Things
Book: Civilized to Death
Book: Sex at Dawn
Book: The Value of Others
Instagram: Beulah
Interview: James Baldwin and Nicki Giovanni
Listen: Decluttering Meditation
Podcast: Psych Hacks
Podcast: Uncivilized
Resource: Clutter Counseling
Resource: Values Worksheet
Watch: I Don’t Want to Waste My Time
Watch: The Part That Women Always Leave Out
Website: Dr. Orion Taraban
Website: Dan Savage
YouTube: Psych Hacks
Recorded at Earthing Studios.
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