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Ep48 The Masculinity Shift with Connor Beaton

Ep. 48

If you’ve ever wondered why so many men today feel lost, disconnected, or unsure of their place in the world, this episode is for you. Mike Desjardins sits down with Connor Beaton, author, podcast host and founder of ManTalks, for a raw and insightful conversation about what it really means to be a man in today’s society—and why so many are struggling to figure it out. Connor has been working for almost a decade as a NY-based coach, teacher, and speaker to help men (and women) from all over the world walk thought their darkness and grow in the realms of mental clarity, relational communication, actualizing their potential and sexual intimacy.


From the silent pressures of masculinity to the rising absence of male role models, in this convo they unpack the emotional, social, and even economic forces that are shaping modern manhood. But this isn’t just a deep dive into the problems—Connor brings practical wisdom, hard-earned insights, and a no-nonsense approach to helping men reclaim a sense of purpose, strength, and emotional sovereignty. You’ll hear why vulnerability alone isn’t enough, how risk-taking and competency play a critical role in male development, and why community support can make all the difference.


Whether you’re a man trying to navigate your own path, a parent raising boys, or simply someone who wants to better understand the male experience today, this conversation offers a powerful mix of truth, tools, and hope. Tune in and discover what’s really going on behind the scenes for men—and how we can all be part of the solution.


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