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The Lonely Leader
Dealing With Criticism
EPISODE EIGHT
Dealing with criticism
SUMMARY
Fear of criticism is one of the most debilitating barriers to creating and sustaining high performance. James draws upon his unique career experiences and shares tools that can help anyone suppress that fear and ensure that they are better placed to optimise their performance.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
For people in leadership roles, criticism comes with territory. If we allow the fear of criticism to dominate we will never be able to sustain high performance.
Operating in the intensity of the sporting sector as a former professional rugby player and predominantly as a CEO of two clubs provided a unique insight into how to process criticism.
Being decisive is essential whilst accepting that not every decision will be the right one.
There will always be ´Armchair Quarterbacks´ people with solutions for every problem but always with the benefit of hindsight.
Do not take criticism personally from people that do not know you personally.
Critical to seek self validation as opposed to external validation.
Take strength from The Man in the Arena - Theodore Roosevelt
ABOUT THE HOST
James is an experienced mentor, coach and thought leader who works with a range of clients from FTSE 100 companies, SMEs, the NHS and wider public and not for profit sectors.
His twenty year career in elite sport, initially as a professional rugby player but predominantly as a chief executive, has given him an invaluable insight in managing the success, failures and pressures associated with leadership at the highest level.
As a high performance coach James, specialises in enhancing resilience and leadership development. He is a passionate advocate of the notion that to find lasting fulfilment, we need to take a holistic view of high performance and create it in both our professional roles and personal lives.
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CONNECT & CONTACT
Website www.thelonelyleader.co.uk
Email: hello@thelonelyleader.co.uk
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