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Preventing Loneliness in Leadership

Ep. 30

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Preventing Loneliness in Leadership  


SUMMARY  


An appropriate topic for James Rule to discuss having branded this podcast The Lonely Leader. In this episode he shares eight steps that every leader can utilise to prevent succumbing to the loneliness and isolation of leadership. 


KEY TAKEAWAYS

Too many leaders experience loneliness and isolation in their role but it does not have to be this way.

Two major reasons are the fear of exposing a skill gap and fear of expressing any form of vulnerability. As a consequence leaders internalise pressure which compromises performance or health

Whatever it is you want to excel at find somebody who can mentor you, share their wisdom and accelerate your learning. 

Guard against becoming insular and focussing only on your job. Maintain perspective by remaining connected to loved ones, friends and hobbies. 


ABOUT THE HOST 

James Rule is an experienced mentor, coach and thought leader who works with a range of clients from FTSE 100 companies, SME´s the NHS and wider public and not for profit sectors.


His twenty year career in elite sport initially as a professional rugby player but predominantly as a chief executive has given him an invaluable insight in managing the success, failures and pressures associated with leadership at the highest level.


As a high performance coach James specialises in enhancing resilience and leadership development. He is a passionate advocate of the notion that to find lasting fulfilment we need to take a holistic view of high performance and create it in both our professional roles and personal lives.  




EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT 


Episode 11 - Leadership Essentials: Delegation 


Episode 21 - Value Your People


Episode 25 - Leadership pitfalls to Avoid 



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www.thelonelyleader.co.uk

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