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The Late Diagnosis Club
How Daria Realised She Was Autistic 10 Years After Her Son’s Diagnosis
Ep. 27
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In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Daria Brown, creator of Affect Autism and host of the We Chose Play podcast.
Daria shares her journey from parent advocate to late-identified Autistic adult, reflecting on the decade between her son’s diagnosis and her own. What began as a search for how to support her son eventually led to a deeper understanding of herself, reframing lifelong traits, parenting experiences, and ways of relating to the world.
They discuss DIR Floortime, rejecting compliance-based approaches, and the role of connection, regulation, and play in both parenting and personal growth.
This is a conversation about unlearning, identity, and what happens when the lens finally shifts.
🪑 Attendees
Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate
Guest: Daria Brown — Parent advocate, podcaster, and late-identified Autistic adult
You: The Listener!
🗒️ Meeting Agenda
- Opening remarks from the Chair
- Member introduction: Parenting, advocacy, and late self-recognition
- Discussion: Son’s diagnosis, seizures, and early understanding of autism
- Medical model, ableism, and the “fixing” mindset
- Discovering Autistic voices during the pandemic
- Questioning identity and the late diagnosis journey
- DIR Floortime, connection, and rejecting compliance-based therapy
- Key learnings
- Club announcements
🧾 Minutes from the Meeting
1️⃣ Opening Remarks
Angela introduces Daria Brown, a long-time parent advocate and creator of Affect Autism, whose work focuses on supporting families through DIR Floortime and neurodiversity-affirming approaches.
2️⃣ Member Introduction: Daria’s Story
Daria’s journey into the autism world began with her son’s diagnosis following a serious medical event involving seizures and brain inflammation. At the time, her understanding of autism was shaped by ableist narratives and a belief that her role was to “fix” her child.
Over the years, as she supported her son and connected with other families, Daria became deeply involved in advocacy and alternative approaches like DIR Floortime.
A decade after her son’s diagnosis, Daria received her own autism diagnosis, reframing her identity and life experiences.
3️⃣ Discussion Highlights
- Early assumptions: Autism initially understood through an ableist, deficit-based lens
- Medical trauma: Son’s seizures, hospitalisation, and lasting impact on parenting
- DIR Floortime: Choosing connection and co-regulation over compliance
- ABA tension: Navigating systems that prioritise behaviour over individual needs
- Late recognition: Seeing lifelong traits through an Autistic lens
- Imposter syndrome: Questioning identity despite strong resonance
- Reframing traits: From “bossy” or “controlling” to regulation and coping strategies
- Special interests: Intense projects, creativity, and lifelong patterns
- Community: Finding belonging through shared neurodivergent experiences
4️⃣ Key Learnings
- Understanding autism often begins with outdated or ableist assumptions that require unlearning.
- Parenting a neurodivergent child can reshape identity and self-understanding.
- Connection and co-regulation are foundational to both parenting and personal growth.
- Traits once labelled negatively may be reframed as adaptive or regulating.
- Community plays a crucial role in reducing isolation and building self-acceptance.
📌 Notice Board
Kieran Rose, The Autistic Advocate
The Neurodivergent experience Podcast
📣 Club Announcements
🎧 The Late Diagnosis Club is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.
💬 Join our online meetups and community at latediagnosis.club.
📌 Check the LDC Notice Board for Member Contributions
💜 There is a small charge — but no one is turned away for lack of funds.
🌈 Celebrate autistic voices with early access, ad-free listening, and our full archive at AutisticCulturePlus.com
🌐 Visit www.autisticculturepodcast.com
📲 Follow us on Instagram: @autisticculturepodcast
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