The Labia Lounge

This week on The Labia Lounge podcast I got to chat with Tara and EJ from Relationship Renovation about how to navigate differing libido and overcome challenges when there's a desire discrepancy in your long-term relationship.We discuss how to manage the dynamics in a relationship when one partner has lower libido and one partner has higher segzual desire. We cover how common - and in fact inevitable - this is, how to combat it when it happens to you, what the misconceptions and assumptions around this are and how the lower desire and higher desire can often feel, as well as the ways in which they're misunderstood. We go into some practical strategies and tips for couples to tackle it together when their libido and desire levels aren't matching up, and we normalise and destigmatise being both the higher and the lower desire partner.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Check out Tarah and EJ's work here: https://relationshiprenovation.com/relationship-renovation-at-home/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfb8I3evBi7aZcVnmvN_yPwhttps://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling/https://www.tiktok.com/@relationshiprenovation*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with Kiki Maree about the disgust response and how this impacts us in the bedroom.We discuss getting "the ick", whether this can be overcome and how to navigate feelings of repulsion towards a lover or partner. We cover what sort of things can trigger our disgust response and why, how sensory sensitivity can lead to our disgust response being activated more easily, and what to do when we feel grossed out or feel revulsion around genitals, fluids, smells, etc during intimacy.And we also chat about how arousal and disgust intersect and the ways kink and BDSM can involve the disgust response as something that can be a turn-on due to it's taboo nature.Given that segzual arousal can minimise the disgust response but disgust can also dampen arousal depending on context and circumstances, this is a super interesting topic that many of us have different personal experiences with - so it's a fascinating episode, gang!Check out Kiki's work here:Insta: Yonilicious or kiki.mareeWebsite: yonilicious.com.auCertified Training: https://www.yonilicious.com.au/yoni-massage-traininghttps://www.yonilicious.com.au/sex-coach-trainingPlus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week on The Labia Lounge I've got another unique one for you - a little different to my regular episodes - as I set up The Labia Lounge interactive space at a SOP party (Seccs on premises party).This is a huge episode full of PHAT and juicy chats with some of the lovely and interesting people who I met at this party!We cover people's different kinks, their experiences with play parties like this, why they love this community and lifestyle, and all sorts of fascinating stuff in this one and I was struck by how open, thoughtful, emotionally intelligent and warm the folk I spoke with were. So thanks to everyone I chatted with for being so generous with your time and stories, and so willing to go there with me on record for this eppy! And thanks to Virtue and Vice for having me at their epic events - it's been an honour to be welcomed into the fold and get to be part of something so unique and special with my giant p*ssy couch and my lava lamps! For those of you who aren't aware, I've created a life size adaptation of the Labia Lounge that I've been setting up at certain events and festivals where I invite punters to come and sit on the actual Labia Lounge (or c*nt couch as we affectionately call it) and be interviewed for the podcast. It's a blast and adds some extra flavour to the usual episode format from time to time.You can check out V & V events here: https://www.virtueandvice.com.au/Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This follow-up episode is addressing some of the crunchier things that arose on the previous episode. If you haven't already listened to Tub Talks with Toey then this wont really make sense so I'd recommend going back and listening to that one first! This is an unusual format again for The Labia Lounge, where I cut together a series of voice memos that were swapped between my friend Chloe and I, as well as Toey and I about issues of racism and objectification that cropped up in the Tub Talks episode and I wanted to unpack further. I thought it might be valuable to hear how we go about exploring this with each other and trying to understand things from one another's perspectives.I don't think there's much like this sort of content on the internet so I figured it'd be a fun novelty to get a glimpse into the sort of conversations I often have with friends, and the sort of thought and energy that goes into it when I'm deciding whether to publish an episode or not if something that was said feels problematic.Next week we'll get back to our usual Labia Lounge episode format but for now, enjoy this two-part Tub Talks anomaly. Would love to hear your feedback!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this episode of The Labia Lounge I'm introducing a new format as a special treat - Welcome to the first ever installment of TUB TALKS!Enjoy a very raw and entertaining chat from the bath between myself and a close friend - who will remain anonymous since this one's particularly explicit and personal (absolutely NSFW)!We discuss my dear pal's first ever experience hiring a professional SW and touch upon topics of race, power dynamics, SW as real work, cannabis use, objectification, breakups and aaaaaall sorts in this one!It's probably the most edgy episode I've put out over the last 3 years of having this podcast, and if you stick around until the end you'll be rewarded with the most vulnerable share I've ever disclosed on the poddy as well.For a number of different reasons this episode feels really scary and exposing for me to release but I'm riding out the discomfort and vulnerability hangover and trusting that my darling listeners and loyal innermost community have got my back and can hold space for it all with love.I do encourage you to reach out once you listen to this one, as I value your feedback on the edgy stuff and will also really appreciate any reassurance or support sent my way after this if you're picking up what I'm putting down!As a follow on from this episode I'm also releasing a part 2 that entails a whole bunch of unpacking that occurred after the initial Tub Talk recording session. It's between Toey and I, and a friend who I sought some feedback from about the stuff that felt a bit edgy or uncomfortable, and involves a whole bunch of cut together voice memos going back and forth and chewing over the chunky stuff. This follow up dives deeper into some of the topics that cropped up in this episode and is a valuable example of how communication can work when all parties are trying to understand one another's points of view from a healthy place of compassion and curiosity. It's pretty cool, if you ask me! So make sure you check that one out after this too.Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I chatted with Dr Emily Splichal, a leading Functional Podiatrist and Human Movement Specialist.We discussed the link between feet and your pelvic floor, how foot health and the shoes you wear can impact your segz life and access to pleasure, why high heels are evil, and some simple tips and tricks for looking after your feet, posture and pelvis to optimise your nervous system and sensory integration.Emily is the Founder of EBFA Global, Creator of the Barefoot Training Specialist® Certification, Author of Barefoot Strong and CEO/Founder of Naboso Technology. With over 23 years in the fitness industry. She's dedicated her medical career towards studying postural alignment and human movement as it relates to barefoot science, foot to core integration and sensory integration.So this one's a bit nerdy (which we like here in The Lounge) and will give you some food for thought around the way you treat your feet, the shoes you wear, and how you move your body. Stay tuned for hot tips on coresgasms too! That was a fun surprise!Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Check out Dr Emily's work here: www.naboso.comwww.dremilysplichal.com*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I've invited my nearest and dearest, Hannah Demerise, back to be a sounding board for all my dating app gripes!It's an absolutely savage and no-holds-barred vent sess where I describe some things that really get my back up when I see them on men's dating profiles, to Hannah's amusement and horror.We also give a run down on the revolutionary new Burned Haystack Dating Method, created by Jennie Young from Word Case Scenario.Jennie - a wordsmith, badass, and linguistics and rhetoric expert - politely declined to be a guest on the pod. But her content is so valuable, and this method so needed, that I couldn't help but do an episode about it anyway to spread the info to all of you out there feeling disheartened and defeated by the apps (and the general state of dating culture these days if you're a woman looking for a long-term partner).This eppy is equally chockers with practical tips and advice on how to navigate the dating apps in an empowering, healthy way as it is with laughs and brutally honest take-downs directed at the unoriginal and dismal talent you find on these platforms that'll make you wanna go celibate forever!Enjoy!Find Jennie's work here: https://www.instagram.com/word_case_scenario/?hl=en and join the Burned Haystack Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/9116647515019601Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I hosted Danielle Bezalel from the sex-ed with DB podcast to chat about all things consent..We dive deep into the complexities of consent culture and the impact of media on shaping segzual attitudes and experiences. We chat about the importance of obtaining clear consent, the nuances of communication and comfort in segzual interactions, and the impact of societal expectations on women and queer individuals in a segzual context. And we unpack the challenges of navigating consent and accountability, addressing the normalised forms of segzual assault, and the importance of instilling empathy in boys from a young age.There's loads of stories in this one that may strike you as something you've experienced or can relate to once it's described, but that you never thought about so deeply or recognised as a consent violation. We also address the fact that r*pe culture is still alive and well, being allowed to thrive in the fertile ground of our patriarchal society, and how we can begin to change this.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Follow DB's work here: https://www.sexedwithdb.com/; https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/; https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb?; https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-ed-with-db/id1286811573*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink