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Understanding Consent - Beyond "No Means No" with Danielle Bezalel

Season 3, Ep. 126

This week in The Labia Lounge I hosted Danielle Bezalel from the sex-ed with DB podcast to chat about all things consent..

We dive deep into the complexities of consent culture and the impact of media on shaping segzual attitudes and experiences. We chat about the importance of obtaining clear consent, the nuances of communication and comfort in segzual interactions, and the impact of societal expectations on women and queer individuals in a segzual context. And we unpack the challenges of navigating consent and accountability, addressing the normalised forms of segzual assault, and the importance of instilling empathy in boys from a young age.

There's loads of stories in this one that may strike you as something you've experienced or can relate to once it's described, but that you never thought about so deeply or recognised as a consent violation. We also address the fact that r*pe culture is still alive and well, being allowed to thrive in the fertile ground of our patriarchal society, and how we can begin to change this.

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!


Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!


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