The Kid Code Playground


Transform the Burden of a Secret, Part 2

Ep. 17

Title: Transform the Burden of a Secret, Part 2

Subtitle: Dissolve The Stress Around Secrets Without Telling The Secret

Show Notes

I’m back with Gina Nelson—an artist, writer, Energy Healing Therapist and Body Mind Counselor but most importantly, she is a mother of a 13-year-old son. 

When Gina was experiencing some of her most debilitating and hidden experiences, she saw her need to become the Secret Keeper. Gina’s role is to educate and empower others to defuse and transform the energy of secrets so that each person has more energy and permission for their much-deserved joy seeking. 

She hopes concepts shared during this podcast can create more self-compassion for parents and offer fun, useful tools for their children. Together we can teach ourselves and our loved ones to move away from shame and isolation and towards connection. 

Gina offers us simple, but profound ways to dissolve the stressful energy around secrets. Please listen to the last podcast to learn what the S,E,C,R, and E mean in the word Secrets!

T: in the word Secret, the letter ‘t’ is to ‘tend to’.

S: Support system (great strategy for kids to learn who is part of them team—with a note by their bed!).

Gina’s upcoming book is called The Energy of Secrets, Ease the Burden of Your Secrets Without Having To Share Them.

Gina has also illustrated a book: We have created a picture book that is entertaining, teaches children how to express and deal with negative feelings, and demonstrates to parents how to assist their children in this process. A Garbage Can Day is the story of a boy who has a very bad day and thinks that he'll be sad forever. Playing the Garbage Can Day Game is the way he learns that he can choose another way. You can too! Come along on Jake's journey as he discovers the amazing power he has to recognize, share and learn how to change his emotions. One unexpected reaction from most adults with whom we have shared this story is that it seems to touch the child within and evoke memories long forgotten and often, unresolved. Many expressed that they wished a book like this had been available to them as children. We hope our story touches your heart.

Contact Gina at:

Look for Gina’s SECRETS on her website: it’s a useful tool to discover healthier secret keeping for yourself and use to teach others.

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Tuesday, May 2, 2023

Successful Time-Out’s/In’s (Time Inward)

Ep. 81
Listen to discover how to help yourself and kids every day with every kind of upset. Use the strategies you like best and if you need a reminder, they’re all in the book, The Kid Code. The Kid Code teachers have simple and short online classes that teach the codes to you, too at A few reminders are:- When you come to the Y in the road, the moment of upset offers two opportunities, either consciously take happy street or stay on sad/mad street. Tell the upset, “You’re not the boss of me.” Yes, adults can do this strategy and say that too.- Bless yourself for your mistake if you let the emotion control you by saying and feeling the truth of the words, “I matter more than the mistake,” and them make the mistake right by apologizing to another person or doing whatever is necessary.- The tantrum tamer.- The turnaround.- Natural consequences.- Diverting to Divinity- Grumpy to Grateful- I am that.- Power struggles.- BullyProof Yourself and Your Kids- and many more…In addition to a Comfy Corner Calming Sheet, you can write some encouraging messages on the other side. Here are some examples that Amanda wrote for her daughter to refer to when she felt upset:Remember you’ve worked through and gotten through these feelings many times.Mom is so proud of you when you find a way to regulate your emotions.You can do hard things.This too shall pass.Breathe. Deep breathes. Let your tummy gurgle and all the emotions release downwards.We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong.Send all your emotions up to the sun to be transformed into light.Ask yourself if the thought you are believing is true.Get your body moving, handstands, skipping. Etc.Worry, anxiety and panic don’t help you control the future. They just make you feel out of control in the moment.Some other encouraging notes you can write to your kids that they can read to help them self-regulate are:Repeat to yourself, “I am loved. I am safe.”Remind yourself that to self-regulate and become calm and playful is a superpower and you’ve got this!These big emotions don’t help me, they hurt me.Anger and sadness and all other upsetting emotions are not the boss of me. I’m the boss of them.My nature is peaceful and playful. How I know that is I feel natural when I’m like that.My nature is not mad and scared. How I know that is I don’t feel natural when I’m like that.What other things might you tell your child to encourage him or her?So make this hard work easier for you and your kids with some comfy corner calming sheets!Show NotesNope, still none. My arms aren’t recovered from surgery as of yet, so no typing for me.