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Make Ourselves Miserable Or Make Ourselves Strong

Ep. 79

Carlos Castaneda, an American writer said, “We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”


Kids challenge us—a lot. We have a long list of buttons they push: they don’t clean their room or listen, they talk back…


What if we put our energy to work to regulate ourselves back to our peaceful, calm, kind nature instead of wasting our energy putting it to work complaining, talking to ourselves about the problem, venting to our friends and partner—generally staying in a bad mood, waiting for the next upset to show up.


Learn why the meaning of breath in Hawaii is life force and how you can use one breath to make yourself strong and happy instead of using your energy to make you miserable.


Show Notes


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