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Does Your Child Tend Towards Victimhood?
Ep. 48
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Today I want to talk about the symptoms of a difficult identity and offer a bit of help. No parent wants to think about their child being a victim, but we all carry the tendency that’s minor or major or somewhere in between.
2:05 – 4:47
- If you let a child get away with adopting victimhood as a way to experience life, it will become habitual.
- The symptoms of victimhood can include:
- Not wanting to go to school (and using physical or emotional pain as an excuse)
- Not feeling safe
- People pleasing so they don’t get bullied (but they get bullied anyway
- Feeling anxious
- Withdrawing
- When your kids don’t want to go to school and claim an illness, one thing you can do is…
- Parents often give in when their child is a victim…
- Don’t despair, it takes time to make these changes, and when you notice them, you can take pleasure in your peaceful, positive parenting style
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