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Dealing With The Wreckage
Family holidays bring connection, but they also bring train wrecks. What to do?
As always, bless yourself and others for their mistakes and move on.
Learn from the mistake and leave it in the past where it is. Journal about your part in the upset. Make an imaginary box at the entrance to your house called The Past and once you’ve learned something from an upsetting event, place it in the box.
Volunteering is vital. There is a Hindu proverb that goes something like this: help your brothers boat to the shore and yours arrives too.
Reassess your needs.
Learn something wonderful about your community, country or the world and share that on social media.
1:15 Bless the train wrecks (the mistakes) and move on down the track.
1:58 Learn from the mistake and leave it in the past where it is.
2:09 Journal about your part in the upsets. What do I need to do to help myself?
2:28 Make an imaginary box called The Past and use your imagination to dump upset feelings into the box but only do that once you have awareness about the situation because awareness is what changes us.
3:01 Volunteering: helps others fills us up.
3:25 Revisit you needs, are they reasonable, are they being met, will they actually help you.
3:33 Learn something wonderful about your community, your country, the world and share that with others (instead of gossiping, complaining or fear mongering—none of which are good for you).
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