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My Mission statement.
This very quick episode is shy of 5 minutes long and was recorded on a different kit, so apologies for the audio.
The podcast must be getting some interest as I keep getting emails being negative and a bit troll-like from angry men and some angry women. So this is to put the record straight.
If you have any questions feel free to give me a call.
Take Care EighteenSeven.
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the 187 said podcast mission statement
the 187 podcast is a podcast for men
those who identify as men and those who
care for them but what does that even
mean
the podcast focuses on issues that men
face
I want to share ideas and information
that Aid the support of men to find
solutions that are right for them
now I have a personal understanding of
the expectations of being a male
however, that's my lived experience and
it's essential for everyone to hear
yours
on this podcast, I'm more likely to talk
about body dysmorphia than I am about
how to get a six-pack or consent for men
and boys rather than how to close the
deal on a luxury woman
now my views on my own and I'm open to
being challenged but
I make no apologies for being male
all my perceived maleness, I will not
make excuses for some men's entitled
Behaviour
anymore
that I would for some women entitled
behaviour
I believe we're all individuals who are part of
a global Collective, and that I you we us
have the responsibility not to be
unhelpful to each other, we should expect
to be challenged if we are being
unhelpful, and I believe we should
Challenge and helpfulness
with love and respect, looking for the
collective win rather than the
individual ego boost
all the unhealthfulness and unhelpful
that I mentioned can be replaced with
expletives, it's completely up to you
now how are we going to do this
activism is the key so
my contribution is to hold true to my
values and create a platform for
dialogue change and development hence
the 187 said podcast
support this podcast, do one of the
following
tell someone about the podcast by
sharing a link on your socials
subscribe be a guest on the podcast
suggest a topic and share your
experiences or ask a question
you can donate by patreon two pounds a
month
would make all the difference
or you can buy some merchandise which is
coming soon or book a course which again
is coming soon
who is 187. now I use this nonda plume
protect the identity of the
organizations and individuals that I
work with
some of my self-disclosures may impact
on my friends and family, so I need to
protect their privacy
finally
I think it's important to listen to the
message in each episode and question the
content rather than rely on class race
sexual orientation disability or my
perceived intellect to validate the
message
because these are precisely the
mechanisms that divide us
some of the things I get asked are
the following are your men's right
activists
no
are you a male feminist no
what are you, then
I'm a man who just wants people
not to be unhelpful
if you have any other questions
please email
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