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S2E53 The Key to Charisma - an Interview with Vanessa Van Edwards

Season 2, Ep. 53

In every interaction we have with others, we constantly send tiny social signals. If we learn to control and leverage these cues, our personal and professional relationships can be hugely improved. In this episode, Vanessa Van Edwards reveals the secret language of charismatic communication and teaches how making simple adjustments to the signals we send can lead to phenomenal success.



·     How to be aware of the cues you send.

·     How to convey warmth and confidence in every interaction.

·     The 3 rules for practicing cues.  



Science of People


“Cues,” by Vanessa Van Edwards


“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey


“How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie


“Babies” movie




“Anyone can learn to be charismatic.” – Vanessa Van Edwards


“If we learn how to send the right signals, we teach the world how we want to be treated.” – Vanessa Van Edwards


“We need to be charismatic now more than ever because we're so burnt out with communication.” – Vanessa Van Edwards


“Highly charismatic people cue warmth and competence, and infect warmth and competence.” – Vanessa Van Edwards


“Competence without warmth, or competence without character, leaves people feeling suspicious.” – Vanessa Van Edwards

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