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S2E132 How to Say No and Smile

Season 2, Ep. 132

Saying yes to everything can seem like a great idea – but it can quickly become a very big problem! In this episode, Brian shares why saying no is necessary for the good life – and absolutely vital for success.

 

YOU WILL LEARN:

·     Why people have the disease to please.

·     Why every yes means a no.

·     The benefits of saying no.

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

S1E59 Get organized now! The Most Organized Man in America – with Dr. Alex Lackey


S1E177, Get OrganizedNow! The Most Organized Man in America, Part 2 — with Dr. Alex Lackey 

 

MasterMind

 

S2E11 Get a GRIP on Your Week - an Interview with Productivity Expert Rick Pastoor Part 1

 

“Crucial Conversations, by Kerry Patterson et al.

 

Free business consultation

 

 

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:

 

“It’s more important to be respected than liked, especially in business.” – Brian Buffini  

 

“In service, you put other people's needs first - but you can't suppress your own needs.” – Brian Buffini  

 

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” – Warren Buffet   

 

“If it's not a hell yes, then it's a no.” – Derek Sivers

 

“When you learn to say no and smile, it means you value yourself.” – Brian Buffini  

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