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How to Change Your Life Once & for All #049
Ep. 49
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“If you don’t feel stuck once in a while, you’re probably not growing.” – Brian Buffini
Change is hard. While many people want to change, but find it difficult to do so, others are forced to change because of a medical emergency, job loss or other life-changing event. In this episode, Brian Buffini delves into the concept of change – specifically what causes people to change – and outlines tips to help people make positive, lasting change.
You’ll learn the difference between passive and proactive change, why change is a transformation similar to the one a caterpillar undergoes to become a butterfly, and how to change your mindset, motivation and methodologies for a lasting impact. Whether you’re inspired to make positive changes or change is happening to you, you won’t want to miss this episode.
Inspirational quotes from today’s interview:
“As you go through life you want to change.” – Brian Buffini
“People don’t change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of the change.” – Brian Buffini
“Some days you pull the dog; some days the dog pulls you.” – Brian Buffini
“Are you going to change or is change going to happen to you?” – Brian Buffini
“All permanent, lasting change starts on the inside and works its way to the outside.” – Lou Tice
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates
“A person becomes who they are based on the adversities they’ve overcome in their own life.” – Brian Buffini
“I’ve come to learn to love the process of transformation.” – Brian Buffini
“Become a millionaire for what it makes of you.” – Jim Rohn
“If you can change your mindset, you can change your life.” – Brian Buffini
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford
“Nothing will impact your life more than changing your thinking.” – John Maxwell
“People don’t change because they see the light; they change because they feel the heat.” – John Maxwell
“If you’re feeling unmotivated it’s because that which motivated you in the past no longer motivates you.” – Brian Buffini
Mentioned in the episode:
Spencer Johnson & Ken Blanchard: The One Minute Manager
Spencer Johnson: Who Moved My Cheese
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