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Developing Your Self-Belief #111
“If we believe in ourselves, we can have belief in others.” — Brian Buffini
The beliefs we hold about ourselves can either motivate us to achieve success or provide the excuses we tell ourselves to justify a failure, or worse, not bothering to try at all. Many people feel the consequences of low self-belief, including arrogance, criticizing others or simply trying too hard. In this episode, Brian Buffini delves into the topic of self-belief and offers tips to help you improve your belief in yourself, your abilities and your future. You’ll learn how insecurity can sabotage your dreams, the role your past experiences and other people’s feedback have on shaping your beliefs and the two affirmations to repeat when you feel your belief is faltering. When we believe in ourselves and our abilities, we have the confidence to rise above the challenges we face and achieve our goals. If you struggle with self-belief—and let’s face it, who doesn’t—this episode is for you. Don’t forget to download the resource to help you evaluate your self-esteem.
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Inspirational quotes from today’s interview:
“If we believe in ourselves, we can have belief in others.” — Brian Buffini
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on.” — Max Maltz
“Needing to talk badly about others indicates low self-esteem. That means, ‘I feel so low that instead of picking myself up, I have to cut others down.’ Letting go of negative things quickly is healthy.” — Pope Francis
“Just being myself is good enough to be great.” — Brian Buffini
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” — Les Brown
“False Evidence Appearing Real.” — Zig Ziglar
“Failure is an event, not a person.” — Zig Ziglar
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” — C.S. Lewis
“What can I learn from this? What can I do the next time I’m in this situation?” — Carol Dweck
“You want to be extra rigorous about doing the best thing you can. Find everything that’s wrong with it and fix it. Seek negative feedback, particularly from friends.” — Elon Musk
“We need stress to live; we need resistance to grow.” — Brian Buffini
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” –Steve Furtick
“Comparison produces insecurity because it focuses on what you’re not.” — Brian Buffini
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt
“The only competition that matters is the one that takes place within yourself.” — Pete Carroll
“A winner is someone who recognizes his God-given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills and the uses these skills to accomplish his goals.” — Larry Bird
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you someone else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Believe in yourself. Have faith in your abilities. Without a whole but reasonable confidence in your powers, you cannot be successful.” — Norman Vincent Peele
“Almost every successful person begins with two beliefs: The future can be better than the present and I have the power to make it so.” — David Brooks
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” — Henry Ford
“If you’ve done something once, you can do it again or you can do it better. The beauty is in the pursuit of the limit, not the limit itself.” –Ashton Eaton
“Find a need and fill it. Successful businesses are founded on the needs of people.” — A.G. Gaston
“When you develop yourself to the point where your belief in yourself is so strong that you know you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, your future will be unlimited.” — Brian Tracy
Mentioned in the episode:
What to Say When You Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter Mindset by Carol Dweck The Emigrant Edge by Brian Buffini
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