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How to Be Resilient #115
Ep. 115
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“At the end of the day, you can’t win if you don’t finish the game.” — Brian Buffini
When you experience a failure or a setback, do you quit or find another way to achieve your goal? Although many people choose to quit, the most resilient people use the disappointment they feel to propel them to greatness.
In this episode, Brian Buffini offers tips to help you become more resilient. In addition to outlining the three common enemies of resilience, he explains the three benefits of cultivating resiliency, and provides timeless advice on how you can become more resilient today.
Brian also delves into the stories of famous successful people who were knocked down by challenges and rejection, only to rise again and again until they achieved success. What do you have in common with Walt Disney, Colonel Sanders, Henry Ford and JK Rowling? Perhaps more than you think.
Personal growth plays a significant role in developing resiliency. Attending a Buffini & Company event can provide the knowledge and motivation you need to thrive. Visit buffiniandcompany.com to find an event near you.
Inspirational quotes from today’s interview:
“At the end of the day, you can’t win if you don’t finish the game.” — Brian Buffini
“I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs, but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.” — General George S. Patton
“We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
“Disappointments are inevitable, but discouragement is a choice.” — Charles Stanley
“When we yield to discouragement it is usually because we give too much thought to the past and to the future.” — St. Therese of Lisieux
“It’s okay to be disappointed; it’s very dangerous to let it turn into discouragement.” — Brian Buffini
“Depression is the inability to construct a future.” — Rollo May
“You can’t start the next chapter if you keep rereading the last one.” — Unknown
“Joy collected over time fuels resilience.” — Brené Brown
“Defeat should never be a source of discouragement but rather a fresh stimulus.” — Robert South
“What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?’—Eleanor Roosevelt
“Confidence comes with you when you walk in the room; you don’t have to say a thing.” — Brian Buffini
“I will persevere until I succeed.” — Og Mandino
“I don’t focus on what I’m up against. I focus on my goals. I try to ignore the rest.” — Venus Williams
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” — Socrates
“Get the fundamentals down and the level of everything you do will rise.” — Michael Jordan
“Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work on your job, you can make a living. If you work hard on yourself, you can make a fortune.” — Jim Rohn
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