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Principles for Better Living #148
“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”—Winston Churchill
In our world today, good manners and civility are on the decline. Too often, people’s attitudes and behavior towards others leave a lot to be desired. But there is a more enjoyable and satisfying way to live! In this episode, Brian explains how committing to the three principles of courtesy, respect and hospitality will make life better for you and everyone around you. If you want to live an uncommon life and have uncommon success as a result, this podcast is for you!
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Inspirational quotes from today’s interview
“Common courtesy is not common practice.”—Brian Buffini
“Courtesy is as much a mark of a gentleman as courage.”—Theodore Roosevelt
“Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing and conveys much.”—Erastus Wiman
“Courtesy is a small act, but it packs a mighty wallop.”—Lewis Carroll
“Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.”—Clarence Thomas
“I believe that good manners are more important than a Harvard education.”—Brian Buffini
“Mind your manners and your manners will mind you.”—Brian Buffini
“A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.”—John Ruskin
“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”—Mark Twain
“Ethics is nothing else than reverence for life.”—Albert Schweitzer
“May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition.”—Gandhi
“I speak to everyone the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”—Albert Einstein
“The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity.”—Leo Tolstoy
“Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”—Muhammad Ali
“Politeness is an inexpensive way of making friends.”—William Feather
“I want to be a source of encouragement.”—Brian Buffini
“Be an encourager. The world has enough critics already.”—Dave Willis
“When you encourage others, you in the process are encouraged because you’re making a commitment and difference in that person’s life.”—Zig Ziglar
“Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, that’s what brings happiness.”—Harold Kushner
“Caring about the happiness of others, we find our own.”—Plato
“Trust is the glue of life.”—Stephen R. Covey
“Don’t wait for people to be friendly—show them how!”—Anonymous
“Lead in friendliness.”—Brian Buffini
“Generosity has nothing to do with your current economic state. It has to do with an attitude of the mind and an attitude of the spirit.”—Brian Buffini
“Being generous is one of the things that has made me a fortune.”—Brian Buffini
“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”—Winston Churchill
“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”—John Bunyan
“A party without a cake is just a meeting.”—Julia Child
“The top of the ladder is not crowded.”—Brian Buffini
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