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Be Anxious for Nothing #175
“You can change habits. Society does not have to impose its anxiety on you whatsoever.” – Brian Buffini
Anxiety is something that can affect us all, especially in today’s increasingly anxious world. In this episode, Brian shares extensive research about the record levels of anxiety in society today. He also teaches how-to’s, based on his own personal experience, to help you feel less anxious. By the end of the episode, you’ll have the mechanisms and methodologies to deal with anxiety so you can stay on course, be encouraged and live the good life!
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Inspirational quotes from today’s interview:
“Anxiety is an extreme uneasiness of mind or a brooding fear about some circumstance.” – Brian Buffini
“We live in anxious times. We live in an anxious society.” – Brian Buffini
“It’s good to know, ‘I’m not the only one’.” – Brian Buffini
“Anxiety is often something a person feels by themselves and is always felt as a weakness.” – Brian Buffini
“We’re living in a cauldron of anxiety – anxiety is now the chief marketing officer for social media...for the 24-hour news networks...and for our sports programs.” – Brian Buffini
“Negativity has become the norm.” – Brian Buffini
“We’re wasting our time on things that are making us anxious. That’s the problem.” – Brian Buffini
“Don’t follow the norm – that’s negative.” – Brian Buffini
“Lacking an external focus, the mind turns inward on itself and creates problems to solve, even if the problems are undefined or unimportant.” – Tim Ferriss
“American culture is often so self consumed that we often think our problems are just our problems.” – Saul Williams
“Go serve someone else, go help someone else.” – Brian Buffini
“No-one is blessed more than the person who gets to do the service.” – Brian Buffini
“It’s impossible to shine the light to someone else’s path without lighting up your own.” – Brian Buffini
“Don’t be so inwardly focused – become outwardly focused.” – Brian Buffini
“Just because somebody’s alone doesn’t mean they’re lonely.” – Brian Buffini
“I’m a very synergistic person....but I really enjoy my own company now.” – Brian Buffini
“There’s a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected, one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.” – Dr Henry Cloud
“You can change habits. Society does not have to impose its anxiety on you whatsoever.” – Brian Buffini
“We have a need for control. Our need for control as human beings is what ultimately causes the highest level of anxiety.” – Brian Buffini
“There’s almost nothing we have control over.” – Brian Buffini
“I can control my attitude. I can control my energy. I can control my effort.” – Brian Buffini
“You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can control what goes on inside.” – Wayne Dyer
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James
“One of the reasons we struggle with anxiety is that we’re not very present in each and every day.” – Brian Buffini
“We get stuck in the past. We get overwhelmed by the future.” – Brian Buffini
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” – Matthew 6:4
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow’s a mystery. Today is a gift – that’s why they call it the present.” – Anon
“People who can be present, do the best.” – Brian Buffini
“Be in the present, learn from the past and help create the future.” – Spencer Johnson
“Perfectionism is what leads to procrastination.” – Brian Buffini
“When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver.” – Brené Brown
“We become anxious because we’re not perfect.” – Brian Buffini
“We’re falling into the ultimate anxiety of comparison....and we’re comparing to something that’s not real.” – Brian Buffini
“Be in the world, but not of the world.” – Brian Buffini
“Instead of control, think in terms of influence.” – Brian Buffini
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