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Ep. 8 The Art of Parenting Adult Children with Lori Badry

Season 1, Ep. 8
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The Art of Parenting Adult Children with Lori Badry

 

Many of us have children who are now adults or will be before we know it. There is a difference in how you parent your children when they are minors versus how you parent them as adults. The role you play in their lives, whether we like it or not, changes. It must change.


I’m joined by Lori Badry, who is a Christian woman with a wonderful husband, 3 adult children, and 3 beautiful grandchildren. Education was her career of choice as she was a teacher for 34 years. Now she is happily retired, with a side gig that brings her a lot of joy.


Lori had to learn the transition to parenting adult children the hard way. She made a mistake, and it forced the need changes in her life. She wanted God to put instructions on a neon sign, but instead He told her to be still and look inward. Through a journey of personal development, growing closer with the Holy Spirt, and growing closer with her husband she has found peace and balance in her life. Now she wants to share with other parents how to navigate parenting adult children so that they don’t find themselves in a perfect storm the way she did. She is so open and vulnerable and so willing to help. You will enjoy listening to her journey.


Tune in to this 8th episode of The Beauty in the Mess to hear about how Lori’s experiences and wisdom are now helping other parents navigate this new way of approaching parenting of adult children.


Some Questions Asked:

  • What do you think she meant at the time (speaking to the fact that her therapist had just told her that she ‘was not that important’)? (08:59)
  • Do you think some of that micromanaging your children was just the need to be needed? (10:46)
  • So, for people that want to avoid that perfect storm but still have the same results you’ve had, what do you think the number one thing to do is? (14:54)
  • So, is he (husband) kind of on the same path? Was he doing the prayer and the personal development as well or was that mostly your journey? (18:30)
  • How do you do that without feeling guilty that you are not offering that solution (to your kids)? (23:69)
  • What does strengthening your relationship with your husband look like now (26:69)?

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • You are not as important as you think you are (08:58)
  • Find personal development material that will help you grown and find your purpose (15:24)
  • Find a therapist to help you work through things if needed (16:19)
  • Prayer before anything (17:30)
  • Talk About It Saturdays (17:69)
  • Reconnect with your spouse (18:68)
  • Ask Adult children if they are wanting a sounding board or advice (19:74)
  • Kids change from your kids to your friends (30:58)
  • Don’t let your emotions be the decisive factor in your decisions (31:61)

 

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