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Ep. 67 Kari Schwear's Journey Out Of The Gray Area
In this heartfelt episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess,' host Michele welcomes Kari Schwear, a coach and author. Kari delves into the concept of gray area drinking, where individuals are neither social drinkers nor alcoholics but struggle with moderate alcohol use. Kari emphasizes the importance of individuals regulating their emotions and to make lasting changes. She also shares insights on the transformative power of breathwork and the integral role of faith in her journey.
Kari is an Executive Lifestyle Gray Area Coach specializing in the many gray areas we have in our lives, particularly with gray area drinking. Her zone of genius is in habit creation, communication, leadership development and intentional living by design.
As a former gray area drinker, Kari founded GrayTonic & the Question the Drink movement in 2018 after her own experience of “living in the gray” led her to the service of others. She offers individual and group coaching for business leaders seeking wellness, performance, and better relationships without alcohol. Kari has also co-authored two books, The Successful Mind, Tools for Living a Purposeful, Productive, and Happy Life, along with her second book, Limitless, a Wall Street Journal #1 Bestseller!
02:10 Introduction and Welcome
02:18 Kari's Personal Journey
05:08 Discovering Gray Area Drinking
05:47 Understanding Gray Areas in Life
14:10 The Decide Model of Change
23:55 The Saber Method for Emotional Regulation
27:50 Radical Honesty and Inner Guidance
28:47 The Power of Choice
29:19 Planting Seeds of Change
29:49 The Journey to Sobriety
31:27 Finding Support and Guidance
32:01 The Birth of a Coaching Career
34:52 Embracing Breathwork
37:27 The Importance of Self-Relationship
39:03 Overcoming Trauma and Identity
44:16 The Role of Gratitude
46:15 Building a Coaching Business
49:21 Sharing Stories and Wisdom
52:38 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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48:35||Season 3, Ep. 79In this episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess,' Michele welcomes Tina, Austria's Pioneer Relationship Coach & Dream Life Mentor who shares her unique journey from professional sports to relationship coaching. Tina discusses her pursuit of happiness, beginning with a transformative experience in the Dominican Republic and Cuba, where she learned the essence of true happiness that is not tied to material possessions. She emphasizes the importance of self-love and holistic living, blending old school wisdom with modern strategies. Tina provides practical advice on how to shift mindsets, create positive habits, and set a holistic foundation for a fulfilling life and healthy relationships. Her story is a powerful reminder that true happiness starts from within.Tina, formerly known as Dr. Love, is a trailblazer in relationship coaching and an acclaimed dream life mentor. With over 20 years of experience and a diverse background that includes sports achievements, international cultural expertise, and overcoming personal adversities, Tina empowers high achievers to master health, love, and career. As an author and a voice of inspiration on various media platforms, she radiates positivity and unwavering dedication to awakening consciousness.02:05 Introduction and Welcome02:13 Journey to Becoming Austria's First Relationship Coach03:08 Discovering True Happiness in Cuba04:14 From Dating Coach to Dr. Love05:18 The Importance of Self-Happiness in Relationships06:22 Overcoming Negative Self-Perception14:21 Finding and Following Your Life's Purpose15:55 Living a Holistic Lifestyle22:15 Practical Steps to a Holistic Life25:09 Evaluating Relationships: Supportive or Draining?25:39 Cultural Differences in Holistic Living27:36 Blending Ancient Wisdom with Modern Strategies29:37 The Power of Visualization and Breath Work33:23 Focusing on Positivity and Gratitude35:17 The Journey from Athleticism to Balance38:35 Mindset Shifts and Habit Formation42:00 Books and Courses for Personal Growth43:59 The Importance of Self-Love45:39 Final Thoughts and EncouragementConnect with Tina Englisch:https://www.tinaenglisch.com/https://www.instagram.com/tinaenglisch/?hl=enLet's Connect!The Beauty In The Messhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/676609323457906https://thebeautyinthemess.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-simms-mba-a061b96a/78. Ep. 78 Cultivating Change and a Positive Mindset with Becky Upchurch
54:41||Season 3, Ep. 78In this episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess,' Becky Upchurch, a mindset coach, shares her journey from being an educator to becoming a life coach. She discusses the importance of setting realistic goals, the misconceptions about motivation, and the strategies for creating sustainable changes in life. Becky emphasizes the significance of starting small and building momentum, the power of commitment over motivation, and the impact of mindset on achieving goals. She also touches on the challenges of setting boundaries, dealing with guilt, and transforming negative life events into sources of clarity and motivation. Becky offers practical tools, such as journaling and audio affirmations, to help listeners shift their mindset and overcome limiting beliefs.Becky Upchurch is a mindset coach who specializes in helping busy women create time for themselves and their goals by learning to say no without fear, guilt, or worrying about what other people think. Both clients and audiences love Becky’s ability to get to the heart of the matter in relatable ways that balance raw honesty with kindness and levity to inspire change. Becky believes that the fastest and best way to achieve your goals is through practical, easy-to-implement strategies, managing your mindset, and trusting in your ability to create sustainable change. She strives to accomplish this in her own life through her motto of “Love Self, Serve Others.”02:05 Introduction and Guest Welcome02:12 Becky's Journey to Becoming a Mindset Coach01:20 Strategies for Sustainable Change08:38 The Role of Motivation and Commitment11:22 Journaling and Mindset Practices17:10 Finding Clarity Through Negative Events24:47 Purpose and Embracing Change27:18 Understanding Human Resistance to Change28:23 The Guilt Associated with Personal Growth29:03 The Importance of Setting Boundaries32:31 Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries38:34 Mindset Shifts for Better Boundaries44:28 The Power of Incremental Thinking47:26 Morning Routines and Planning Your Day49:01 Introduction to Higher Good Coaching52:03 Final Thoughts on Saying NoConnect with Becky Upchurch:https://www.instagram.com/BeckyUpchurch_https://www.highergoodcoaching.comLet's Connect!The Beauty In The Messhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/676609323457906https://thebeautyinthemess.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-simms-mba-a061b96a/77. Ep. 77 Navigating Divorce & Family Law with Empathy with Elizabeth Douglas, ESQ
37:12||Season 3, Ep. 77In this episode, Michele interviews Elizabeth Douglas, ESQ, an award-winning divorce and family law attorney and speaker. Elizabeth shares her lifelong passion for law, transitioning from corporate litigation to divorce and family law to forge a deeper connection with her clients. She discusses the challenges and rewards of her work, emphasizing the importance of communication, empathy, and holistic support for individuals going through divorce. Elizabeth also highlights the significance of self-care, mental health support, and the pivotal role of prenuptial agreements. The conversation touches on complex cases, modern family dynamics, and fostering self-love post-divorce. Elizabeth's commitment to helping clients thrive after divorce and her proactive approach to evolving family law are key themes throughout the discussion.Elizabeth is the CEO and Founder of Douglas Family Law, PLLC. She is an award-winning divorce and family law attorney in New York. She has helped her clients through challenges like divorces, custody, and surrogacy battles and believes that everyone can start over and live fulfilling lives - no matter what they go through. Elizabeth has been featured in Forbes, Fox and recently on CNBC - she is also an international keynote speaker. She strives for excellence while being a beacon to uplift her staff, community, and clients.02:00 Introduction and Welcome02:07 Elizabeth's Journey to Family Law03:49 Challenges and Emotional Impact05:16 Empathy and Client Care06:45 Helping Clients Through Grieving08:50 Most Challenging Cases10:44 Rewarding Cases and Modern Family Dynamics12:19 Communication Issues Leading to Divorce13:32 Life After Divorce: Healing and Moving Forward21:09 The Importance of Prenups27:42 Pet Custody and Legal Nuances29:48 Fostering Self-Love After Divorce31:09 Final Thoughts and Practice InformationConnect with Elizabeth Douglas, ESQ:LinkedInWebsiteTwitter / XLet's Connect!Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast InstagramWebsiteLinkedIn76. Ep. 76 Mastering Personal Branding with Annie Margarita Yang
39:29||Season 3, Ep. 76In this comprehensive episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess,' host Michele delves into the world of personal branding with financial expert and author, Annie Margarita Yang. The discussion spans Annie's journey from avoiding student loans to becoming a bestselling author, highlighting the importance of personal branding. Tips for curating a robust online presence, particularly on platforms like LinkedIn, are shared. The episode also explores strategies for maintaining a consistent and authentic brand across all social media, emphasizing storytelling and authenticity. Annie and Michele tackle topics such as the challenges in personal branding like receiving negative feedback and the variability of audience engagement. They look into the future of personal branding, especially the role of TikTok, and provide valuable job search strategies. The conversation underscores the changing relevance of traditional degrees in career advancement, urging listeners to think beyond conventional paths and strive for their goals with confidence.Annie is the best-selling author of “The 5-Day Job Search.” Additionally, she is someone who balances a full-time job with a thriving side business and is a female breadwinner. She offers practical advice, a unique perspective, and encouragement that you can apply immediately. She’s successfully branded herself as a personal financial expert online, and now as a best-selling and award-winning author. She is eager to share lessons that can aid you in reclaiming your professional narrative. With over 1 million YouTube views and 18,000 subscribers, her reach and impact speak to the effectiveness of the strategies that she teaches.02:30 Introduction and Guest Welcome02:37 Annie's Backstory: From Immigrant Child to Financial Expert03:33 The Journey to Becoming an Author and Financial Advisor05:30 Testing Out of College and Early Career Moves06:34 Understanding and Building a Personal Brand07:55 Networking and Leveraging Social Media09:06 Consistency in Personal Branding16:29 The Power of Storytelling in Personal Branding20:03 Navigating Audience Attention Spans20:51 Adjusting Your Brand Without Losing Followers22:07 Dealing with Personal and Emotional Challenges23:07 Responding to Hate Comments26:18 The Future of Personal Branding28:03 Insights on Job Search and Career Growth29:03 The Importance of Mindset in Job Applications29:12 Interview Tips and Personal Branding33:59 The Role of Education in Career Success37:36 Final Thoughts and EncouragementConnect with Annie Margarita Yang:LinkedInFacebookInstagramTwitter / XTikTok Let's Connect!Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast InstagramWebsiteLinkedIn75. Ep. 75 Designing World Class Entrepreneurial Success with Daniel Hauge
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48:13||Season 3, Ep. 72In this episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess', host Michele interviews Krissy Loveman, a trauma-informed life coach. Krissy shares her journey from growing up in a conservative, fundamentalist environment to dealing with chronic pain and burnout. She discusses the pivotal moments and transformative practices, such as Jungian psychology and feminine movement pole dancing, that led her to become a life coach. Krissy helps people build confidence and reclaim their power over anxiety, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. She coaches the conscious and unconscious mind to rewire neural pathways that create deep, lasting change. A self-described "psych nerd," Krissy loves to teach people how the brain and nervous system drive our behavioral patterns. She places a special emphasis on deprogramming notions that poor self-discipline or lack of willpower are the reasons we fail to change ourselves. 01:37 Introduction and Welcome01:45 Chrissy's Journey to Becoming a Trauma-Informed Life Coach03:27 The Role of Jungian Psychology and Feminine Movement05:07 Overcoming Physical and Emotional Challenges06:27 Understanding Trauma-Informed Coaching08:19 Listening to Your Body and Movement Practices12:08 Interrupting Negative Patterns and Stress Responses14:36 Tools for Real-Time Pattern Interruption19:31 The Power of Hypnosis and Visualization23:57 Maintaining Long-Term Change26:41 Understanding Self-Sabotage27:50 Interrupting Patterns with Tools28:26 The Science Behind Rewiring the Brain29:41 Childhood Roots of Self-Sabotage32:06 Workshops on Anxiety and People Pleasing34:57 Exploring Shadow Work and Archetypes41:20 S Factor Feminine Movement43:40 Coaching Programs and Contact Information46:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Krissy Loveman:WebsiteInstagram Let's Connect!Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast InstagramWebsiteLinkedIn71. Ep. 71 From Having MS to Becoming A Weightlifting Champion with Kim Rahir
50:04||Season 3, Ep. 71In this episode of 'The Beauty In The Mess,' host Michele welcomes Kim, a health coach for middle-aged women, who shares her compelling backstory. Kim, a former journalist, opens up about her global travels, her battle with a severe autoimmune disease leading to multiple sclerosis (MS), and her transformative journey to reclaim her life through strength training. She discusses the physical and mental benefits of weightlifting, the challenges of living with MS, and how she became a European weightlifting champion. Kim also offers insightful advice on small daily habits, the importance of proper nutrition, and the empowering nature of physical strength for women, encouraging everyone to take the first step towards a healthier life today. Kim is a 60-year-old mother of three who was diagnosed with MS 10 years ago and decided to ignore her doctor's advice and muscle her way back to a happy life. Last year she became European Champion in Masters Weightlifting in her age and weight category. Her journey inspired her to leave her career in journalism in her 50s and become a health coach for middle aged women - with a big focus on reactivating and rebuilding muscle. Today, she helps women tap into an abundant source of vitality. It works by reactivating and maintaining muscle and eating to nourish and flourish.02:07 Kim's Journey to Becoming a Health Coach03:10 The First Autoimmune Episode04:38 The MS Diagnosis and Struggles07:35 Embracing Physical Strength11:11 Maintaining Motivation and Small Habits20:25 Diet and Autoimmune Diseases23:14 From MS Patient to Weightlifting Champion25:57 Joining the Gym at 5526:29 The Thrill of Competing28:45 Gratitude and Living in the Moment30:03 Discovering Meditation32:14 Coaching Midlife Women33:43 Strength Training Approach35:32 Nutrition and Support37:29 Encouragement to Start Today43:18 The Challenge of Change47:33 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Connect with Kim Rahir:LinkedInWebsiteFacebookEmail Let's Connect!Facebook: The Beauty in the Mess podcast InstagramWebsiteLinkedIn