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#35 - The Truth About Masturbation | Dr. Tolu Oko-Igaire (Part 2)

Season 3, Ep. 12
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THE DARK SIDE OF THERAPY, INTIMACY & SEX | Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire (Part 2)

In this highly anticipated Part 2, Dr. Tolu Oko Igaire goes even deeper into the unspoken realities of intimacy, emotional connection, and sexual struggles in Nigeria.

With raw honesty and clinical insight, she breaks down how culture, religion, parenting, and trauma shape our sex lives and relationships — often in damaging ways. From the emotional gap between men and women to the real reasons many marriages suffer in silence, Dr. Tolu doesn’t hold back.

This episode is bold, eye-opening, and deeply practical.

What We Discussed in Part 2:

  • Why sex is not just physical — the massive importance of emotional connection
  • How men are conditioned to be providers but struggle with intimacy
  • The damaging effects of parenting, culture, and religion on emotional expression
  • Why many Nigerian men have low emotional capacity in the bedroom
  • Healthy vs unhealthy masculinity and its impact on sex
  • The truth about sex education — what children should actually see at home
  • Kinks, fantasies, exploration, and how far is “too far” in marriage
  • Cognitive reconditioning, CBT, and why changing adult behavior is difficult
  • The painful realities of Igbo apprenticeship system and its effect on men
  • Creativity in sex, foreplay, and why many women are frustrated

Dr. Tolu combines professional expertise with compassion as she addresses the silent struggles couples face but rarely discuss openly.

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