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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Childhood Trauma

Season 3, Ep. 23
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Episode Summary:

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of childhood trauma—what it is, how it manifests in adulthood, and the ways it can shape our beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. Katie shares personal experiences and professional insights, exploring the spectrum of trauma, from overt events to the absence of emotional safety and connection. The episode also covers common adult adaptations, the importance of self-compassion, and how coaching can support healing and growth.


Key Topics Covered:

  • Defining childhood trauma: not just big events, but also the absence of safety, attunement, and connection.
  • Personal stories of growing up with emotional neglect and the impact on self-worth and relationships.
  • The spectrum of trauma: from abuse and chaos to neglect, perfectionism, and parentification.
  • How trauma is a state of overwhelm without support, not just a single event.
  • Common adult patterns: people-pleasing, hypervigilance, fear of conflict, over-responsibility, and difficulty setting boundaries.
  • The process of internalizing adult messages and forming limiting beliefs in childhood.
  • The role of the nervous system and body in carrying trauma responses into adulthood.
  • The importance of repair, self-compassion, and learning new ways to create safety and connection as adults.
  • How coaching and somatic techniques can help process and heal from childhood trauma.


Notable Quotes:

  • "Trauma is not an event. It's how alone we felt in that event."
  • "Our adaptations are brilliant and beautiful, and now as adults we get to learn how to befriend ourselves."
  • "Childhood trauma does not have to be a life sentence."


Resources & Contact:

  • Instagram: @KatieOStressCoaching
  • Email: info@oakmountainmh.com
  • If this episode brings up strong feelings or memories, please reach out for support.


If you resonated with this episode or have questions, connect with Katie for a chat about support or coaching. Stay tuned for more episodes diving deeper into specific patterns and healing strategies.

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