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The Dating Professors: Ten Years of Tinder - Where Are We Now?
Season 1, Ep. 14
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As hard as it may be to believe, the mainstream swiping era recently turned a decade old. Irina and Michelle discuss how dating has changed during that time, as has their own perspective on it. The Dating Professors review some of the recent popular writings on the topic of ten years of Tinder, including on the issue of burnout. The Dating Professors cover how apps have gamified dating and how some women have raised their standards in positive ways while others come in with unfair expectations and act flaky. Should women tell each other "You're the prize!", and what should we think about men who make Venmo requests after dates? Can people date casually and then decide from one day to the next it's time to settle down? Warning: your hosts are in a spicy mood on this episode!
Catherine Pearson, ‘A Decade of Fruitless Searching’: The Toll of Dating App Burnout, https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html
Gili Malinsky, I’m still single but this is why I’m quitting dating apps like Tinder and Hinge forever, https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/17/single-thirtysomething-giving-up-on-dating-apps-like-tinder-and-bumble.html
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