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Special: Exclusive Interview with Award-Winning Writer L.L. Kirchner

Season 2, Ep. 49

Award-winning screenwriter and author L.L. Kirchner takes Irina and Michelle through the whirlwind of her life in this episode you will not want to miss. While living in Qatar, L.L. received a phone call from her husband announcing that he wanted a divorce. Afraid that she would spiral back into substance addiction, L.L. promptly decided to take a spiritual journey to India where she quit smoking cigarettes as soon as she landed and threw herself into yoga and meditation, even visiting a sex cult at one point. L.L. tells it all, from the start of her eventually babysitting-funded alcoholism that started at age ten (later on adding other drugs) to the dating column and matchmaking experiment she ran for an alternative newspaper. After some online dating adventures of her own in NYC, did she really end up finding love with Florida Man?? Come find out!


L.L. Kirchner's website


L.L's Instagram


L.L.'s book "Blissful Thinking: A Memoir of Overcoming the Wellness Revolution"


L.L's book "American Lady Creature: (My) Change in the Middle East"


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