Storytime

Reddit rSlash Storytime r relationships where got called a chink and bf didn’t stood up for me now it’s hauting me and I can’t seem to get over it when I think about this, not sure what to do Am I (F27) in the wrong for feeling like I am my husband's (M37) second choice? Should I apologize or is he actually wrong for his comments of how he finds the friend I was with more attractive than me? Elder brother who's earning a lot wants us to share our parent's medical expenses equally. He claims that I made the conscious choice to stay in a low-paying job as an artist. After arguing with him, he offered to pay the bills in full on the condition I change my job. Should I take up his offer? Am I too sensitive for being called “fat” eventhough I know I’m not? He says he isn’t ready to move out because he has his family and pets close to him. I have to move out in the next few months. After 4 years together he seems to be ok with this kind of an arrangement - still living separately, barely seeing each other, and it’s an active choice he’s making. Everything in my life will change, and nothing in his will. We’re not getting any younger and I don’t know if I can continue to put more years into this relationship. In short, I just found out I have a 35yo son I never knew about and have had a tough and emotional week and want to make sure I am available to him but I also feel guilt, sorrow, and remorse and don’t want to harm anything positive going on in his life.