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Pt 1: The Thing That Nobody Wants To Talk About - Baby Loss | The Infertile Midwife, Sophie Martin

In part 1, Sophie opens up about the unspoken struggles of infertility, her journey through multiple rounds of IVF and the devastating grief that followed. 


Plus, she discusses the feelings of failure around being unable to carry a child, the responsibility of pregnancy and the lack of support surrounding baby loss.


Follow Sophie @the.infertile.midwife and get her book The Infertile Midwife: In Search of Motherhood


For support around baby loss, check out Tommys.org


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