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Figuring It Out
Pt 1: Adulting, Heartbreak and the Joy of the In-between | Ann Russell
There’s always been a lot of discourse about what it means to grow up, but what does being a ‘proper adult’ actually look like? In today’s episode Dr Alex George is joined by Ann Russell, a TikTok superstar who built a huge online following through sharing helpful advice on all things adulting: from hack to tackle your laundry to learning how to live with grief.
In part one, Ann unpacks how she got started on social media, shares tips on how to deal with heartbreak and reveals why we need to focus on living a satisfying life, as opposed to a purely happy one…
Plus, the pair discuss what they believe happens when you die, and why you need to focus more on the ‘inbetween moments’ of life, rather than the big problems.
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