StephUp Podcast

This little light of mine...I'm going to let it shine. In spite of what others think or say and especially in spite of ourselves. Sometimes we feel like we are being that best version of ourselves and other times we feel like the little kid who isn't allowed to sit at the adult table. Or maybe that's just me.I was given advice to not be selfish with what I have to offer. To shine my light, even when it seems I don't have any or when I have just a tiny little flame. You never know when what you have to offer could help someone else.

This is a live I did on the Noom Vibe app (check it out in your Apple Store or Google Play!)There are no limits to how far we can go and who we can be and what we want to be. There is really no ceiling above us that can stop how high we go even though there is a belief in society that you can only do so much. Once we overcome our limiting beliefs and we focus on finding our “why” instead of worrying about the “how”, things will start moving forward. And yet, it is important to know your limits. This might seem contradictory but there are limits to who we are because we are not meant to do everything. We are each uniquely who we are and all of us are here to do different things. We find what works for us by trying and failing. And understanding how to listen to our intuition and figure out what fully aligns with us and what doesn’t. You can listen anywhere you listen to podcasts. 🎙

You know when you are going through a hard time and want to hide away? This episode is about that. And about the fear of putting ourselves out there and comparing to others who seem to have it all figured out. I can only be me. My experiences and perspectives and skills make me, me. The comparisons on social media can freeze us. But it doesn’t mean anything. We can look to our own path and believe in ourselves and know that we have something to give.

Procrastination has generally been labeled as a “bad” thing. But sometimes there are layers to it. And does it even help to label things as good or bad? Does it help to assign negative emotions to things? Sure, we don’t know what tomorrow will bring and yes, it is important to do things now instead of constantly putting it off. But understanding the reasons behind can be very helpful. It’s helpful for us to know so we can figure it out and so we can encourage instead of shame others as well. We want to be understood and we long for people to meet us where we are. Some of the reasons for procrastination can be overwhelm, fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism and sometimes we need to have discernment on whether we even should take action.  It doesn’t mean that we allow these reasons to keep us stuck and not moving forward. But as always, there are layers to being human and the complexities of everything we experience. There are layers to procrastination. It’s important to understand where these emotions and blockages come from. But we don’t need to add shame to these thingsEncourage. Empower. Love. 

I am thankful for the painful things. It taught me so much about myself and who I am and who I want to be. It taught me about understanding others who are in pain too. When you put others down, it makes you feel superior so you can feel better about yourself. Except it doesn't and that’s where you can see what’s truly within you. This all shaped me into the person I am today. It’s easier to empathise with others when you understand pain. It’s amazing how sending love to others can change you. We are sending out what we have within us. When I allowed my ego and anger to take over, I know I made things worse. Thank you for the experiences and the lessons. Thank you for the pain. The hardest person in your life is your greatest teacher. Loving that one person who seems to be the hardest to love changes you. And it changes them too.

“I said that?! I did that?! I believed that?! I thought that?!”We are all in different places at various times in our lives. If we look back at 5, 20, 40 years ago, we can see how many changes have taken place within us. It can be hard to look back and acknowledge that was you and that was embarrassing what you said or did, but it was also a previous version of you.That was you and that was where you were at in that moment during that time.  We are all human and we all know what that feels like. Give yourself grace and recognize how far you’ve come. 

“Thank you, body!” Have you ever said that to your body? Do you ever look at it and just thank it and love it? We put our bodies through so much. Add to that all the shame, addiction, self-harm, hatred, etc. Our trauma is trapped within our bodies. Let us free our bodies from the pain. I free myself. I love myself. I thank myself.Accept and feel it. Feel the gratitude. Feel the beauty. Your body knows when you start to love yourself. Everything is connected. Let’s start speaking kindly to our bodies and help to heal ourselves from so much pain. 

I've been asked before if I really needed to know what's within me and what's in my past. Sometimes, it's really not helpful to know and for some people maybe it isn't. For me, it was important to know myself; to know why I did what I did and how I tick. I had to go to the past to understand myself in order to adjust and move forward in my future. Only you can really answer if you really need to know.