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Throat Goats, Dirty Sheets and Sexual Communication (ft. Valerie Ike)

Season 2, Ep. 7

On this week's episode, our delectable host, Hausa Chocolate is joined by TV presenter and fellow podcaster Valerie Ike. They dive into a riveting discussion about sexual communication and all the chaos in between. Why don’t people communicate with their partners easily about sex? How do you express your sexual needs? What happens if you throw up Egusi during head?

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Themes Discussed: Sexual communication, Ghosting, Shame


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