Sober Awkward

Sausage Warning - In today's episode there are far too much pork talk - May be disturbing to some listeners.It's an email that Vic and Hamish receive all the time - Is it a lapse or a relapse when you drink after a period of abstinence? and do you have to re-set your sober days counter if you have one day of drinking?If you just completed Sober October...well done! Didn't those sober days tick over nicely? - It would be shame to go back to day one. But, what happens if the need comes creeping back and if you have a bevvie (which we hope you won't) does it need to be dramatic? Do you have to reset your app? or can it just be a glitch that strengthens your sobriety in the long run?Today Vic and Hame are going to unravel the difference between these two words 'Lapse' and 'Relapse' to try and understand if they are as heavy as they sound. Does it depend where you sit on the vast spectrum of alcohol use disorder? or is it just a matter of personal choice?For Vic, a relapse would symbolise a serious mental health breakdown, but for Hame it might be as simple as shrugging it off.The process of drinking again after time off is different for everyone.So, if you have has a lapse or relapse, Sober Awkward is here to put the imaginary pig back in the pen, get you back on the sober horse and get the wheels of the sober wagon rolling (too many farm related puns? ) They will unravel the shame over a slip up, give you some tips, uncover why choosing to take responsibility for your drinking habit will help it last longer and lastly, understand why Vic has a very close relationship with the toilet right now.Enjoy!Show NotesVic's book is worldwide on Audio and Ebook - Just search for 'A Thousand Wasted Sundays'https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

Whether you are newly sober or 10 years in, chances are you have had a drinking dream.For Vic and Hame these usually involve a highlight reel of being off their faces in a nightclub or at a music festival.These can be both troubling and an incredible relief. For some, the dream of being drunk can act as a trigger to wanting to experience that again. Whereas for others, just waking up and realising that you do not have a hangover or come down can further strengthen their sobriety.Is there anything you can do to avoid these types of dreams?How can you train yourself to react in a positive way every time?Why does Hame’s wife struggle to accept that dinosaurs existed?We will answer the BIG questions in this week’s episode.Enjoy!Show NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

In todays retrospective episode Vic and Hamish find out why giving up the grog means you have some spare change to spend on nice stuff!You can listen to the full episode here:https://open.spotify.com/episode/0dUeTDbT3rkHBWBtXsINXi?si=5885e0b67cb047abShow NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

Last week Vic and Hame found out about those weird and strange people that don't get hangovers and this week they dig into how you can subtly help that person and nudge them towards an alcohol free life.How do you tell someone that loves drinking that you're worried about them?It's a question that Vic and Hame get all the time! And it's the hardest one to answer.When you are still in love with booze, have no repercussions from it and feel like its your best friend, someone trying to sit you down and have a meaningful chat about it will be enough to have the big drinkers reaching for that bottle of voddie, so how on earth can you get someone to slow down without making them feel defensive?Today is all about those calm, shoulder to shoulder conversations, why leading by example is so powerful and reframing the hangover.Oh and Vic reads a terrible review of her book.Enjoy!Show NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

In today's retrospective episode Vic and Hamish find out if money is a good enough reason to quit.You can listen to the full episode here:https://open.spotify.com/episode/0dUeTDbT3rkHBWBtXsINXi?si=5885e0b67cb047abShow NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

There are some weird people in this world that don't get hangovers. They drink a case full of beers and wake up the next day feeling fine and dandy. So, why would someone like this ever quit alcohol and how can you help someone that is still in the honeymoon period of boozing?Well, today Vic and Hamish try to find out. In the first episode of this two part extravaganza, they discover why some people don't suffer dusty comedowns the next day, how genetics play a role and why which booze you choose makes hangovers more severe.They will also take a look at the reality of the hangover - is it just 24 hours of feeling like shit or is there more long term damage that people ignore just to keep the party going?So, because they waffled on for far too long about this it's been split into two episodes - next week we go from the 'no hangover unicorns' to about chatting to someone you love that is still........ totally in love with booze.Show NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

In todays retrospective episode Vic and Hamish discover that nights out are overrated - is it really that fun if you can't remember it?You can listen to the full episode here:https://open.spotify.com/episode/5GhVuQElPdgfeDfeYXW145?si=66dd192c06484ac0Show NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays

No-one really talks about death or prepares for it. Is this why booze is so prevalent at wakes and funerals?The way us humans deal with death doesn't seem to evolve. You put on a black outfit, grab a sarnie and a tissue, then, generally, everyone gets totally shitfaced. Then you accidentally offend the grieving widow, fall down some stairs, get thrown out of a pub and stumble home singing 'Oh Danny Boy.' Then, after the wake you have to deal with a hangover on top of all those difficult feelings. It's an emotional mess.Booze doesn't help. It prolongs the mourning period and makes recovery from the death of a loved one a lot more painful. So, why do we do it?Unfortunately death is something all us sober folks will face at some stage. Death is part of life, we will lose people. So, how do you handle it as a sober person? Should you even go and risk your sobriety or are there other ways that you can remember someone without getting three sheets to the wind - blotto.On Sober Awkward we like to talk about the hard stuff, (not whiskey!) plan for unexpected situations and confront emotions (and talk a little bit too much about Hamish's sheep fetish - say no more.) but we hope by digging deep into the more difficult aspects of life, we can help you feel stronger in your sobriety and help you approach the death of a loved-one without the risk of relapse So why are funerals and wake so boozy? Is it ok not to go? and how would the person that dies feel if you said 'No' to raising a glass at their send off?Find out in this slightly more serious episode of Sober Awkward.Show NotesVic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.htmland please give a review at www.goodreads.comJOIN PATREON! and buy us a Cuppa so we can keep being awkward!https://www.patreon.com/user?u=81897291www.cuppa.community – The Free Social Network for the Sober and Sober Curious - Sober Events – Therapy – Sobriety Courses – Sober Groups and loads more.@soberawkward @drunkmummysobermummy@cuppa.community @hamishadamscairns @patreon @spotifyIf you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -vicandhamish@soberawkward.comSign up to our 30 Day Sober Tour Guide at www.soberawkward.com#soberawkward #soberawkwardpodcast #drunkmummysobermummy #cuppa.community #sober #sobermom #sobermummy #sobriety #soberaf #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #mummybloggers #writersofinsta #soberfamily #greyareadrinking #addiction #soberissexy #soberwomen #sobermomtribe #sobrietyrocks #soberlifestyle #alcoholfreelife #wedorecover #sobernation #mumblog #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity #soberdads #1000sundays