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Why Am I Losing Some Friendships in My Sobriety?

In today's retrospective episode, Hame looks back over the trip that he was dreading the most in his sobriety. A long awaited return home to his old haunts and drinking friends and no less than 3 weddings and dancefloors. You'll hear how, despite being sober, he still managed to throw up!


This episode was cut together from Parts 1 and 2 of our earlier episode on 'Friendships.

You can listen to part one here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2PrNlOm80WE5lU2umEK0qz?si=08e85989fa394350


And part two here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/797sTdVbTpRz2PjSHqVdm4?si=331eca59ef4149a8


Show Notes

Vic's book is out! Go and get yourself a copy whilst you can...


https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-thousand-wasted-sundays-victoria-vanstone/book/9780645757941.html

and please give a review at www.goodreads.com


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If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol please reach out to your local doctor, a therapist, AA Group or just chat to a close friend. Don’t feel shame, just get the help you deserve. Contact us! If you have a topic you’d like us to cover then please email us -

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